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Jul 03, 2018 at 10:00 PM
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My daughter doesn't live with me but she came by the house the other day to take care of her cats when I was at work. I found a drop of blood on the bathroom floor that I know was from her. She self harms and I think she may have hurt herself while she was here. Normally I'm very straight forward and ask questions but I'm not sure what to do anymore. I haven't seen her since and I suspect that it was meant for me to find. I'm at a loss and open to any thoughts or suggestions PLEASE!
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Jul 03, 2018 at 11:28 PM
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I think I am understanding that although you are usually straight forward, addressing this with your daughter whom you haven't seen in a while is like walking a tight rope. How to talk without being confrontational? How to raise concern and open dialogue? Getting her to open up to you is perhaps my biggest piece of advice-not to say she might not but if you keep that door open it's back in her court.
I found this article that has some advice, albeit reading it gives me the impression of when the child is a minor and under the same roof, but the suggestions are for compassion. https://psychcentral.com/blog/helpin...ming-behavior/ |
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Jul 04, 2018 at 01:56 AM
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How old is your daughter? I tend to agree ... leaving a trace of blood if you know she self harms is tricky and I wonder if she wanted you to know it's there. Is she seeing a therapist? |
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Jul 04, 2018 at 05:29 PM
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I think if she left it there she may want your help.
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Jul 10, 2018 at 06:04 PM
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She turned 18 in October but left the day she graduated to go back to a boyfriend that had broke up with because he is abusive. She has been in counseling since she was 14 and first started hurting herself. She isn't currently seeing anyone and I am sure she is off of her meds, I think. This has been going on for years and I think she got out of here so she doesn't have someone asking her all the questions. I know he threatens to kill her and when she cries he reminds her that she wants to die anyways so what is the problem. I go from angry and resentful to scared and sad for her. Thanks for listening.
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Jul 10, 2018 at 06:31 PM
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