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Default Jul 06, 2018 at 02:44 AM
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So, we went out on a lunch date and talked for about four hours. We laughed and cried about our situation and talked about everything under the sun. We are happy. He is really interesting when he talks. He is absolutely fascinating. He is a really nice man too and sweet. He is going to Europe for a month and plans to meet me again when he returns. We will continue chatting on skype when we have time. He hugged me twice. He is really like a teddy bear. We are compatible because we both have challenges. His is physical and mine is mental. He is very bright and intellectual. I am emotional and listen to him relishing every detail he says. I am smittened! What I like about our relationship is that it is budding into a friendship. We have many things in common yet also are like yin and yang. He is full of stories of his adventures all over the world and his business. I admire him and his tenacity. He is a survivor yet is compassionate. I am a little like him. I am very happy about meeting him again. He wants to take me places and show me around the city. He is really kind and giving. I truly like him much. The lunch was good too. He took me to a nice restaurant. I am really beginning to like him a lot. He is really nothing like his facebook posts. In person, he is talkative and charming- a sweetheart indeed. I like him so much.


This is the first relationship that is going very well. With my other relationships, it was all about sex or just no connection as humans emotionally. We just hug and feel warm inside. He has not suggested anything physical and neither have I. We are happy with each other. We are bonding as friends and as people who truly like each other. I also wore something classy not trashy. Sometimes with dates, I dress trashy and this sets the tone of the date. I am not doing this with him because I really want to know him as a person and vice versa.

I have no reservations about him anymore. I like his personality and spirit. He is the man for me. I will continue taking it slowly and getting to know him as a person. He is my sweetheart, and I hope to be his. It is fate that we both met and really like each other. The more he and I talked, the more I really liked him as a person. I was so moved that he hugged me twice. I believe that God puts people in one's path for a reason. He is in my life now for me to know and to care about. He said he likes me too.

So, as life continues here, my feelings of loneliness are decreasing because of his existence and his warmth that he exudes with his smile and his speech. I am truly happy. I look forward to meeting him again although it is about a month away.


Sometimes, failure is at times important to make one see what is important in life. I failed at my first marriage but realize that I needed to have this experience to be able to cherish a good man. I thought after my divorce that it was a life of loneliness until death. I have a second chance now and am really grateful for this. He is absolutely wonderful. A good, decent man with a heart that does nothing but give until it hurts.


I hope my messages is encouraging to others who give up looking for a life companion. I was not truly looking for one but just wanted a friend and found one who is in the form of a nice man. I feel sad that I had to go through so much suffering and pain to realize that a life companion is not about appearances nor about sex but about bonding emotionally and mentally. I believe, he is the one- my mate who I have been searching for all of my life.


But, time will tell. I believe we have chemistry and will bond as two people who care about each other despite our flaws and weaknesses. I think sometimes one knows when the right person comes along. He is so sweet- a true teddy bear. I hope to hug him for the rest of my life. He is my teddy bear for life and hopefully eternity.


If you have any comments, I welcome them. TIA!

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Is this the same person you said was boring, who bored you to tears, and who has opposite interests from you? I am super confused about your 180 degree turn, if so.
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Default Jul 06, 2018 at 07:41 AM
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Yes, his posts on facebook are boring but in person he is delightful. I really liked talking with him today. He is fascinating to talk with!! Yes, it seems his posts were making me bored out of my mind but talking to him in person is a different situation. He is absolutely amazing and truly intriguing to listen to. I enjoyed being with him and talking with him about anything. Sorry, it seems to be confusing but virtual versus reality are two different worlds and situations. I will take him as a person in reality any day. I do like him much!! Thank you for asking about him.
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I really like what you say about the difference between virtual and reality. :nodshead:

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Thank you so much for your support and encouragement. Yes,he is the sunshine in my life. It was rainy today but his warmth was like the sun shining in front of me. I am so happy we talked for as long as we did. He is a gentleman. I will miss him for awhile because he is going to Europe for business. When he returns, I will be very happy that my teddy bear who is my sunshine has returned and will be excited about meeting him again.
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There was an earthquake here. We we sent each other messages saying we are ok and asking each other about it. He and I are doing ok. The earthquake lasted 15 seconds and was rather large about a 6 in magnitude. It was anxiety provoking. I was riding it out in my apartment feeling like boy this is lasting longer than expected. So, I messaged him and asked him if he was ok. He is doing fine and so am I. After yesterday's meeting with him, I'm still all smiles and feeling warm inside.
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Yes, his posts on facebook are boring but in person he is delightful. I really liked talking with him today. He is fascinating to talk with!! Yes, it seems his posts were making me bored out of my mind but talking to him in person is a different situation. He is absolutely amazing and truly intriguing to listen to. I enjoyed being with him and talking with him about anything. Sorry, it seems to be confusing but virtual versus reality are two different worlds and situations. I will take him as a person in reality any day. I do like him much!! Thank you for asking about him.

That's awesome! I'm very happy for you!
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