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Default Jul 24, 2018 at 05:32 AM
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why is that strange to some people?

people have even freaked out about it

I suppose a lot of people think well.. she's 30, she must at least want to try dating by now

but I don't, and the comments I get from people make me feel like it's weird

anyone else my age not interested in dating and get those comments too
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Default Jul 24, 2018 at 06:56 AM
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why is that strange to some people?

people have even freaked out about it

I suppose a lot of people think well.. she's 30, she must at least want to try dating by now

but I don't, and the comments I get from people make me feel like it's weird

anyone else my age not interested in dating and get those comments too
I suspect people freak out because they have this idea about what "normal" is plus expectations about what we all should want.

I'm more than twice your age and single. I get so sick of people pushing me to be in a relationship. Don't want to be in one. Don't need to be in one.

Are you happy not being in a relationship? To me that's the important question. If you are okay with your situation then let the people pushing you go hang!
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Default Jul 24, 2018 at 07:06 AM
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Thanks for this thread. I'm not 30 yet, but I already got so many question about relationship and marriage.

I think that they reflect their own fear: fear of being alone and unattractive (for some people, being unmarried linked with unattractiveness). It may also because of social norm like lizardlady has pointed out.
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Default Jul 24, 2018 at 08:09 AM
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It's because people like to judge everything other people do based on their own ideas of a "perfect" life.

I'm not in the same situation, but I had four kids between 25-29. I got judged for how many kids I had (because dont you know that 2 is the perfect number), how close together I had them (because they should be 2.5 years apart you know) and because i was so young looking (drinking age here is 18, I got ID'd until I was 30).

Right after baby number four my neighbor asked if we were the next Duggars. I laughed on the outside because on the inside I pictured decking him. Lol.

There is nothing wrong with being single at 30 or 40 or 50 or 60 and so on. They should respect that it's your life and none of their business.
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Default Jul 24, 2018 at 08:36 AM
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I like dating and sex is fun but I am in no way wanting a serious relationship. It only leads to pain for me. I have trouble saying the L word at all these days, except to my kids. I can't imagine saying it to a woman
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Default Jul 24, 2018 at 08:40 AM
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It’s your life. If you don’t want a relationship, you don’t have to have one. If you can support yourself and don’t want to have kids, you can do what you want. It’s not weird. Not everyone is meant for traditional roles. Do what makes you happy and tell others to mind their own business.

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Default Jul 25, 2018 at 02:08 AM
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I felt this way for a long time. For me, I don't want any relationship that's "forced". My gf and I became friends first, naturally before we started dating. Not because I was seeking a relationship. I think it just makes things so much more genuine and real.

Also imho some people want relationships for the wrong reasons. They want someone to take care of them or their kids, or they're afraid of being alone. They end up settling for the first person that comes along who they don't even truly love. Sometimes I cringe when I see how unhappy a relationship/marriage looks and I know that individual would be much better off on their own.

Good for you for thinking for yourself and doing what makes you happy.
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Default Jul 25, 2018 at 03:31 PM
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Live and let live is my Motto ..

Im so shocked that people feel the need to question people about something that isnt any of there business.

When someone starts can you just be blunt and say something like " why is this any of your business? " Im blunt so I have no problem speaking my mind.

I hope these fools leave it alone and you dont have to continue to deal with it at all

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Default Jul 26, 2018 at 09:27 AM
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I'm 36 and never dated

The idea of dating mortifies me and having a serious relationship is even worse. I can't probably do either, although I'd love to try casual sex with someone I cared about but there is other issues I struggle with preventing that as well. You are not weird or strange in my eyes

its not for everyone
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Default Jul 29, 2018 at 05:40 PM
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I haven’t had this issue.. but I too think that some narrow minded people love to judge others as “normal” or not. How boring.


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Default Jul 31, 2018 at 01:37 AM
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Anyone can be in a relationship. Wow, how amazing.

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