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For almost 2 weeks I've gotten close to a wonderful, sweet, man. We've been very vocal about liking each other but I've just started to feel ashamed and disgusted at the whole thing. I woke up to a wonderful letter he wrote me. I don't know how to word it. I like him a lot, he engulfs my imagination every second of the day and it's clear I engulf his. I've been avoiding him now. I want some space. I'm so confused. I feel false and the thought consumes me. I'm acting quintessentially like someone with disorganized attachment. I don't want to hurt him but I don't know what to do. How to approach the situation. I'm looking for advice (and not to be chastised or reprimanded for feeling this way, I'm not looking to string him along because up until yesterday I was feeling fine about the whole thing).
I teeter with wanting to be close, intimate, and then feeling like I cannot bring myself to reply to his messages. I feel weird about getting closer. Since I'm now feeling weird about it, I also feel disingenuous to act as if I'm okay, to respond to his messages lovingly, but the longer this goes on the more I worry about hurting him, or leading him to believe I'm distancing myself. I don't want him to be confused, but I feel so strange. And up until now he hasn't said mentioned anything about a relationship, or anything serious of that sort. Which, I'm thankful for. I DO like him a lot. I want to touch, kiss and be affectionate with ONLY him. But I also want to run for the hills. Last edited by Zygomycosis; Aug 04, 2018 at 02:55 PM.. |
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Maybe you just need to move more slowly, and it's going too fast for you. If having some kind of attachment issue, so what? That doesn't mean something is wrong with you. I encourage you to tell him your feelings. That you are feeling this way but also still really like him and want to just move at your own pace. If he is the right one he will understand.
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