advertisement
Reply
Thread Tools Display Modes
Zygomycosis
Junior Member
Zygomycosis has no updates.
 
Member Since: Nov 2016
Location: NYC
Posts: 16
5 yr Member
10 hugs
given
Default Aug 04, 2018 at 02:38 PM
  #1
For almost 2 weeks I've gotten close to a wonderful, sweet, man. We've been very vocal about liking each other but I've just started to feel ashamed and disgusted at the whole thing. I woke up to a wonderful letter he wrote me. I don't know how to word it. I like him a lot, he engulfs my imagination every second of the day and it's clear I engulf his. I've been avoiding him now. I want some space. I'm so confused. I feel false and the thought consumes me. I'm acting quintessentially like someone with disorganized attachment. I don't want to hurt him but I don't know what to do. How to approach the situation. I'm looking for advice (and not to be chastised or reprimanded for feeling this way, I'm not looking to string him along because up until yesterday I was feeling fine about the whole thing).

I teeter with wanting to be close, intimate, and then feeling like I cannot bring myself to reply to his messages. I feel weird about getting closer. Since I'm now feeling weird about it, I also feel disingenuous to act as if I'm okay, to respond to his messages lovingly, but the longer this goes on the more I worry about hurting him, or leading him to believe I'm distancing myself. I don't want him to be confused, but I feel so strange.

And up until now he hasn't said mentioned anything about a relationship, or anything serious of that sort. Which, I'm thankful for. I DO like him a lot. I want to touch, kiss and be affectionate with ONLY him. But I also want to run for the hills.

Last edited by Zygomycosis; Aug 04, 2018 at 02:55 PM..
Zygomycosis is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
Anonymous50384, may24, ShadowGX

advertisement
Anonymous50384
Guest
Anonymous50384 has no updates. Edit
 
Posts: n/a
Default Aug 04, 2018 at 08:42 PM
  #2
Maybe you just need to move more slowly, and it's going too fast for you. If having some kind of attachment issue, so what? That doesn't mean something is wrong with you. I encourage you to tell him your feelings. That you are feeling this way but also still really like him and want to just move at your own pace. If he is the right one he will understand.
  Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
All times are GMT -5. The time now is 08:20 AM.
Powered by vBulletin® — Copyright © 2000 - 2024, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.



 

My Support Forums

My Support Forums is the online community that was originally begun as the Psych Central Forums in 2001. It now runs as an independent self-help support group community for mental health, personality, and psychological issues and is overseen by a group of dedicated, caring volunteers from around the world.

 

Helplines and Lifelines

The material on this site is for informational purposes only, and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment provided by a qualified health care provider.

Always consult your doctor or mental health professional before trying anything you read here.