Really weirded out (Facebook issue)

A very young woman (she is 19 or 20, so, still a child in a sense!) has been messaging me a lot, going live with her same age boyfriend and sending me invites to watch (I did yesterday for a moment, and she said hi to me, and I felt very embarrassed by that), and it seems just like she is really enthusiastic about me in general online.

She is my friend's daughter. I feel like it may be helpful to note (or maybe it's irrelevant) that I am 35, my friend is in her 50s, and her daughter, again, is let's say 19.

Ok so, I am feeling in my gut, that there REALLY is an age difference here! Like a true maturity level age difference. And the fact that this young woman may also have something else going on, possibly autistic spectrum...I feel weird interacting with her on Facebook. It is uncomfortable for me. I once suggested we get coffee. I thought maybe it could be like a big sister / little sister relationship thing. But she declined and to be honest, I was glad. I do not want that either. I am not in that "place."

At first, her communication was just mildly annoying. But I also wanted to be nice to her. She's my friend's daughter. I still want to be nice to her. But I am just very uncomfortable now. But I also need to take personal responsibility for the fact that I say things back when she writes to me and comments on things on my Facebook wall. I have "liked" her posts, and commented, too.

So, here's what I am doing. I figured I'd still be nice. But I am pulling back. I unfollowed her, and will not like or comment on her posts anymore. I don't have it figured out for when she comments on my posts. Maybe I can make some available for only some people to see, if it's really personal, for instance. I will try not using exclamation points and lots of enthusiasm. But still be kind. When she messages me, I don't always even respond. I think this is ok. She sends me pictures of her and her boyfriend. Lol. And videos of things she's interested in. And I need to not express an interest anymore. I am just too uncomfortable with this interaction. I am just in a very different place than your average 35 year old, but it seems like she things we are on the same level / wavelength maybe, and we are not.

I thought about talking to her, and as of right now, no, I'm not comfortable doing that and I don't know what I'd say. I may tell her mother. It feels like a boundary issue for me.

I'd suggest talking with her mother, as well, since she is your friend In any case, I think you're acting in the correct way.

I am a similar age to you. I have teenagers to 80 somethings on my Facebook. I think it all comes down to whether you relate to each other and your comfort level. I think how you are handling it is fantastic. You are acknowledging your boundaries, while considering her feelings. That's amazing. I dont think you need to say anything yet. See if things take their course naturally in response to your actions.

Thanks MickeyCheeky and KissTheRain.