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Magnate
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Location: Canada
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Oct 04, 2018 at 01:59 PM
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Well, I am happy to report that I DO have a significant other who tries his darndest to be supportive and encouraging.
He seems to understand my anxieties and what triggers them. The thing is he is desperate to help and take the pain away and wants so very badly to learn from me how to go about this. I of course have no answers for him which frustrates him about my illness. He witnesses me go through at times excruciating distress and feels helpless to alleviate the pain and fear. I in turn feel badly myself because I have no answers for him. "Just be there for me as I crumble each morning and evening and let me know you care" is the best I can come up with. So my question is, are any partners out there actually able to help? I don't mean just being present and encouraging, I mean is there anything they do that takes away the anxiety? |
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Grand Magnate
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Location: Kentucky
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Oct 04, 2018 at 03:28 PM
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Beyond the physical distractions, there's nothing anyone can do for me, and sometimes that makes it worse. Overall, I think the actual work to calm me is all mine. I use kava to help too, but only rarely and in mild amounts. I sometimes have to fall apart for a while, and that's ok too
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Oct 04, 2018 at 05:26 PM
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Be extremely thankful and grateful to him for carrying so much. His consideration of your illness is very sweet but I'm sorry there's not much I am aware that he can actually do to help. Because what cam help one day may not work the next. Unfortunately my husband is not very supportive and encouraging when it comest my anxiety. So it's very nice to hear that there are supportive partners out there.
SorryShaped, I just want to thank you for mentioning about it being okay to fall apart sometimes. Because for a long time and even today I feel ashamed and embarrassed of breaking down and falling apart. Last edited by lady411; Oct 04, 2018 at 06:01 PM.. |
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Oct 04, 2018 at 08:25 PM
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Oct 05, 2018 at 10:06 AM
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He is concerned this morning. I did not sleep well and all I have done these two days off is think about and make myself sick about working again tomorrow.
He made me breakfast though and I will say that did help take away some of what was on my mind - though that was only temporary. He did say as he went out the door to call him about anything and if needed he will come home from work. |
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