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Is implying that you are suggesting that one should be polite. I dont' know many people that would take that statement any other way. you're giving your own example of what you would do, which is, in any other conversation a way of giving a suggestion so I dont' think that I was out of context by saying what I did.


I don't disagree with your contrast from posting an ad or watching or looking at porn is not the same but I feel you missed some of the context in the original post since it was stated in the first post that he already had met with the guy and that via emails she found that he was planning to meet him again, so while your statement about posting an ad is not cheating - though obviously the intent is there if one does post an ad... but that's obvious, but it wasn't simply talking nor viewing or posting but actual cheating that happened.

so as the rest of your post, it kind of falls under the same thing. the OP mentioned up front that she knows he met with the guy...

I don't believe for a second in remaining with anyone prone to deceit in the form of cheating that cheats. so yes I stand firm in the belief that walking away from a cheater is the best idea.

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I am soo confused, the other day I went on my laptop and tried to login to my outlook account but my boyfriend of 6 months left his email signed on. When I glanced at his emails I noticed he has been responding to Craigslist adds. I noticed the dates of the when the email where sent and it was at the first 2 months of our relationship. Then I noticed one that was just a few weeks ago.

I then noticed that there we other messages more recently, my boyfriend gave the guy his new phone number which he got 2 months ago and was looking to meet up with him again.

I have not brought this up with him yet and I do not know how to bring this up, I am so confused and hurt. I really need some advice on what to do, I am not against peoples sexuality or want to make him feel embarrassed about his sexuality. But I do not want to be with someone who is cheating or thinking about cheating on me with anyone (man/woman/or another gender).

How do I bring this up and what should I do about this?

It might just be best to be honest about seeing this.

Have you thought about hiring a private investigator to find out whether or not he is cheating on you? Have you thought about borrowing someone else vehicle and following him to his meet up and see for yourself of he cheating on you?

He's selling himself by way of deception. There are no mitigating circumstances. Smack him upside the head with an aluminum bat.

I would admit you saw it and end the relationship right then and there. You need tested for STD’s.

Be grateful you didn’t have a long time invested in him

this has nothing at all to do with you making a judgment about his sexuality, it doesn't even need to be the focus of the dialog. The fact that your partner is having casual sex secretly with other people is the problem regardless of the orientation of said encounters.

I would not keep this to yourself for one second. In addition to the idea he's stupid for cheating in the first place it's his own darned fault for leaving the email logged in on your computer so you didn't even have to snoop to find out. You're free to mention what you saw, I think. But you dont' even need to justify yourself. walk away. Just tell him matter-of-fact that he's a cheater and you want someone that's faithful and leave it at that.

I said walk. I meant RUN.

I'm so sorry you're struggling, missunderstood93 I'd say run away from him as soon as you can. He's cheating and lying on you, and it has nothing to do with the fact that he's seeing men... how would you have reacted if he was seeing women instead? Please dump him as soon as you can. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this

For me, it's the betrayal of the relationship time and time again!

Nope! ... That's It! ... Done! ... Finito!

Time for him to pack his @#$%! & get the @#$%! out!

It's also imparative that you get tested for STD's immediately, then again in 3 months and yet again in 6 months!

Do not delay on this!

Your very life could depend on it!