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Default Dec 18, 2018 at 02:03 AM
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It’s autism level 1 in the last 2 years, and ptsd. I don’t want to talk about his dx.
Oh I see so if he was diagnosed in last 2 years then it’s not Asperger but ASD. That’s why I ask why you keep saying he has Asperger.

I understand not wanting to talk about diagnosis of course. But I am suprprised to hear that you don’t want to talk about his diagnosis as you discuss his diagnosis in almost every post so it appears that you want to talk about it.

That’s why I asked for clarification re diagnosis due to you discussing it in every post. It has to be important for you for some reason to mention it that often.

I personally prefer holistic approach with focusing on people, not on their diagnosis
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Default Dec 18, 2018 at 02:38 AM
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Oh I see so if he was diagnosed in last 2 years then it’s not Asperger but ASD. That’s why I ask why you keep saying he has Asperger.


I understand not wanting to talk about diagnosis of course. But I am suprprised to hear that you don’t want to talk about his diagnosis as you discuss his diagnosis in almost every post so it appears that you want to talk about it.


That’s why I asked for clarification re diagnosis due to you discussing it in every post. It has to be important for you for some reason to mention it that often.


I personally prefer holistic approach with focusing on people, not on their diagnosis


His dx is important to him.
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Default Dec 20, 2018 at 09:02 AM
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Hi Leomama,

In the past when I said he was highly disrespectful of you, it just appeared that way. I am sorry to hear he has issues in dealing with his emotions. I wish you all the best in the relationship. I am glad you have a support group, because all relationships have their ups and downs. However, you will face more challenges in this relationship than some other people do with theirs because he is wired differently. Are you ready to discontinue this thread because you are back together?
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Default Dec 20, 2018 at 09:16 AM
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Sure we can turn it off as we have reunited. Yes I’m going to need support dealing with his autism level 1.
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Default Dec 22, 2018 at 10:53 AM
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Hi Leomama,

Like I said earlier, I suggest you don't expect too much from the relationship. That means not to get too emotionally involved. Enjoy the time you have with him and don't expect him to contact you every day.
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Hi Leomama,

Like I said earlier, I suggest you don't expect too much from the relationship. That means not to get too emotionally involved. Enjoy the time you have with him and don't expect him to contact you every day.


It’s not like that. We don’t have a casual relationship.
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Default Dec 22, 2018 at 11:46 AM
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Hi Leomama,

You can still lower your expectations from this relationship. Try to find some other friends and hobbies so you have support for the times he is not in touch with you or for the times you have a major disagreement. I am concerned for your sanity. You may have a hard time with your sanity if you expect him to respond to you in a romantic way all the time.
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You can still lower your expectations from this relationship. Try to find some other friends and hobbies so you have support for the times he is not in touch with you or for the times you have a major disagreement. I am concerned for your sanity. You may have a hard time with your sanity if you expect him to respond to you in a romantic way all the time.


Other friends and hobbies? I work ft, I have a daughter, brother, Parents, I go to church, I sing in the choir, I belong to 4 book clubs, I run. A romantic way? Again, it’s not like that. Concerned for my sanity? All you need to be concerned about is he has autism level 1 and I don’t.
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Does his autism absolve him of poor behavior or does it give you both something to work with and adjust and find ways to bring out the strengths in one another?
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Does his autism absolve him of poor behavior or does it give you both something to work with and adjust and find ways to bring out the strengths in one another?


I would hope the 2nd.
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I would hope so too. Did he express to you wanting to find ways to make adjustments despite his limitations?
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I would hope so too. Did he express to you wanting to find ways to make adjustments despite his limitations?


Absolutely and things have been going well.
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