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Old 02-14-2019, 11:44 AM #11
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I've got proof of all this and so have others.

I'm not sure what this statement means as, first off your statements are not proof to the witnesses here, only allegations if, of course this was some kind of court of law. All we can do here is interpret your perceptions and statements of what you see as happening and analyzing them.

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There is a man called A from Tip and around 2013 near easter sunday and he called me and started to be sarcastic and take the diss out of me and everyone in the background was laughing. The proof is in the phone recording if the company allows me to retrieve it.


Another time was a lady called V where for some reason she goes in front of other women "look at him he doesn't talk" in front of 50 or odd female spectatators at a sport match in front of me, and another time in front of many others, I mean the audacity to act like that in front of me and with many, many others watching and put in a uncomfortable situation knowing full well I'm a shy person? This was in 2012 and 2013.



Another time she did the same thing on the stage, she goes "where's me" maybe wanting others to laugh.


in 2014 there a lady called K and everyone heard this, while I was fielding in a sports match in August 2014 which she was sitting with the ladies as a spectator where the spectators were sitting, she goes loudly while I was encouraging my team mates "look at how he talks" "look at how he talks". She didn't even offer an apology and no body told her off. So many people were there.


Approax about 40 minutes later when it was our time to bat I walked past all the ladies while they were sitting to go to find my batting partner and they all started to laugh while I was walking past them and they laughed some more as I tried to find my batting partner, laughing was is ok, but to laugh 3 more times after that while I went to find him? They was looking at me and laughed more and more.

The questions that come up for me as to what you've stated here is, first, What is your question here or what is your request for advice on? Second some of these statements are about events that happened up to 6 yrs ago so my question would be are you currently in a situation that involves these people, and if so what are they doing now? I'm not sure anything can be really done about things in 2013, 2015 etc. I mean it's 2019 now so I would think moving past these embarrassments and or humiliations would be the best bet, unless they are currently happening and if so, what are they and who is doing this?


If you're posting this information to establish a pattern of being bullied and how it's affected you without knowing what's going on, how it's affecting you or what you are asking to do about it, it's hard to say much about it.


Lastly, it seems that there are a few random incidents by people that are not entirely things that would be deemed as bullying as much as it is just rude behavior. Someone can be ridiculing someone else which of course is rude and obnoxious but that doesn't necessarily mean it's bullying. At least not in my book. Someone bullying someone is an act of humiliation etc in order to control or manipulate someone into doing something or behaving in a way that establishes control at the hands of the bully. Whether that be in the form of shutting them down or other reason. people heckling, making fun of or joking about someone isn't always bullying although of course it is inappropriate, mean and rude behavior.
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(((Alpha03))), I see you are a survivor of emotional abuse. This can make a person more sensitive to how others around them are behaving and can create an uneasyness that other people are emotionally abusing you like you had experienced in your history. It can trigger strong FEELINGS about how others are behaving, but, it's important to recognize these feelings and step back and consider if you are being triggered from what you experienced in your history or are you really actually experiencing the same thing in the now.

It sounds to me like you may be struggling with some ptsd challenges and you should reach out to a therapist so you can talk about these challenges you have so you can understand how you struggle better and learn ways to step back when you are triggered and make sure you are not just assuming you are being emotionally abused like you have experienced. It's hard because a victim of abuse can most definitely be very sensitive. That is why having the right therapist can help you learn more about things that trigger you and how to better evaluate things that you experience and how they may not be what you experienced in your past. It sounds like you never have had a chance to talk about your past and work on processing some of it? That can most definitely take time depending on what kind of abuse you experienced and how young and for how long.
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Thanks for the replies guys.

Also a lady called s went on her twitter "when you know, you know" with a laughing face referring to me. Most likely malicious gossip. She may have deleted it now.

Also a man called d at the function in 2018 easter sunday goes "where's insert name" on the stage" wanting to make fun of me and embarrass me in front of everyone.
Have you thought about gathering evidence and reporting it for harrassment with the police?
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The information I am missing here is, how did you handle the bullying situation? Did you ask them to stop? Did you bring a middle man to discuss this personally with the main person who was bullying you? Did you walk away or avoid these people so you will no longer have to deal with them?

I am in no way excusing their behavior. I just want to know what did you, or could you do about it.
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"look at him he doesn't talk"

"look at how he talks"
No matter who it is directed at or what the context is, the above statements do not sound respectful. I don't think any of us would want someone to talk this way about us.

But do you think that you are being singled out for a ridicule? Or is the person making fun of you a kind of a "smart mouth" and jokes about everyone including himself?
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Sometimes the way to take back your power is to take on a 'not going to take it' aura/air about you. Enough is Enough.
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I did nothing wrong, absolutely nothing wrong.

There is a man called A from Tip and around 2013 near easter sunday and he called me and started to be sarcastic and take the diss out of me and everyone in the background was laughing. The proof is in the phone recording if the company allows me to retrieve it.

-He wanted someone to volunteer for the camera's

Another time was a lady called V where for some reason she goes in front of other women "look at him he doesn't talk" in front of 50 or odd female spectatators at a sport match in front of me, and another time in front of many others, I mean the audacity to act like that in front of me and with many, many others watching and put in a uncomfortable situation knowing full well I'm a shy person? This was in 2012 and 2013.

Seriously, this person just wanted to humilate me


-I was just fielding, doing my own thing and at another time getting a drink.
-The way she behaved is unjustified, there's no need to put someone on the spot like that.

Another time she did the same thing on the stage, she goes "where's me" maybe wanting others to laugh.

-Is there a reason for this? She only did it to me, she called up the sports team members and when she said this, she already knew I was there

in 2014 there a lady called K and everyone heard this, while I was fielding in a sports match in August 2014 which she was sitting with the ladies as a spectator where the spectators were sitting, she goes loudly while I was encouraging my team mates "look at how he talks" "look at how he talks". She didn't even offer an apology and no body told her off. So many people were there.

-I was encouragement my team mates, surely nothing wrong with that?

Approax about 40 minutes later when it was our time to bat I walked past all the ladies while they were sitting to go to find my batting partner and they all started to laugh while I was walking past them and they laughed some more as I tried to find my batting partner, laughing was is ok, but to laugh 3 more times after that while I went to find him? They was looking at me and laughed more and more.

-I already said, I was just walking and looking for my team mate and they all laughed and kept laughing
I'm really sorry that this has happened to you! Have you thought about letting other people know that you might be a victim of being stalk and ask that these people be removed?
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I'm so sorry you've been bullied, Alpha03 It must be really tough for you. Please don't give up. You're strong. Just try to ignore this kind of people and move one. They don't deserve your attention. I'm so sorry, I know it's hard. Remember that we're here for you. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help you. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this
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Thank you for all the replies guys, very much appreciate the helpful advice, suggestions and kindness on here.

I am sensitive and they know I cannot defend myself.

So they do treat me with disrespect. They know they will get away with it.

One of the above posters said "is this guy being a smart mouth", he isn't. He puts people down. He never jokes about himself. He can be condensing and he is disrespectful.

I don't stand up for myself and I try to ignore it. Yes I am seeing a therapist to deal with these issues and to increase my confidence.

They may think I'm different.

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