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Old 02-08-2019, 09:13 AM #1
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I've got proof of all this and so have others.


There is a man called A from Tip and around 2013 near easter sunday and he called me and started to be sarcastic and take the diss out of me and everyone in the background was laughing. The proof is in the phone recording if the company allows me to retrieve it.


Another time was a lady called V where for some reason she goes in front of other women "look at him he doesn't talk" in front of 50 or odd female spectatators at a sport match in front of me, and another time in front of many others, I mean the audacity to act like that in front of me and with many, many others watching and put in a uncomfortable situation knowing full well I'm a shy person? This was in 2012 and 2013.



Another time she did the same thing on the stage, she goes "where's me" maybe wanting others to laugh.


in 2014 there a lady called K and everyone heard this, while I was fielding in a sports match in August 2014 which she was sitting with the ladies as a spectator where the spectators were sitting, she goes loudly while I was encouraging my team mates "look at how he talks" "look at how he talks". She didn't even offer an apology and no body told her off. So many people were there.


Approax about 40 minutes later when it was our time to bat I walked past all the ladies while they were sitting to go to find my batting partner and they all started to laugh while I was walking past them and they laughed some more as I tried to find my batting partner, laughing was is ok, but to laugh 3 more times after that while I went to find him? They was looking at me and laughed more and more.
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So sorry to read that you are going through this
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I've got proof of all this and so have others.


There is a man called A from Tip and around 2013 near easter sunday and he called me and started to be sarcastic and take the diss out of me and everyone in the background was laughing. The proof is in the phone recording if the company allows me to retrieve it.


Another time was a lady called V where for some reason she goes in front of other women "look at him he doesn't talk" in front of 50 or odd female spectatators at a sport match in front of me, and another time in front of many others, I mean the audacity to act like that in front of me and with many, many others watching and put in a uncomfortable situation knowing full well I'm a shy person? This was in 2012 and 2013.



Another time she did the same thing on the stage, she goes "where's me" maybe wanting others to laugh.


in 2014 there a lady called K and everyone heard this, while I was fielding in a sports match in August 2014 which she was sitting with the ladies as a spectator where the spectators were sitting, she goes loudly while I was encouraging my team mates "look at how he talks" "look at how he talks". She didn't even offer an apology and no body told her off. So many people were there.


Approax about 40 minutes later when it was our time to bat I walked past all the ladies while they were sitting to go to find my batting partner and they all started to laugh while I was walking past them and they laughed some more as I tried to find my batting partner, laughing was is ok, but to laugh 3 more times after that while I went to find him? They was looking at me and laughed more and more.
I'm sorry to hear that happen to you.
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Thanks for the replies guys.

Also a lady called s went on her twitter "when you know, you know" with a laughing face referring to me. Most likely malicious gossip. She may have deleted it now.

Also a man called d at the function in 2018 easter sunday goes "where's insert name" on the stage" wanting to make fun of me and embarrass me in front of everyone.
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Sometimes the way to take back your power is to take on a 'not going to take it' aura/air about you. Enough is Enough.
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Could there be another meaning for this? You haven't described to us in what the leadup was or context to their actions and statements. There isn't enough information here to draw a valid conclusion.
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Could there be another meaning for this? You haven't described to us in what the leadup was or context to their actions and statements. There isn't enough information here to draw a valid conclusion.
I was going to say the same thing. You kind of started in the middle and I feel like I do not have enough context to answer.
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I did nothing wrong, absolutely nothing wrong.

There is a man called A from Tip and around 2013 near easter sunday and he called me and started to be sarcastic and take the diss out of me and everyone in the background was laughing. The proof is in the phone recording if the company allows me to retrieve it.

-He wanted someone to volunteer for the camera's

Another time was a lady called V where for some reason she goes in front of other women "look at him he doesn't talk" in front of 50 or odd female spectatators at a sport match in front of me, and another time in front of many others, I mean the audacity to act like that in front of me and with many, many others watching and put in a uncomfortable situation knowing full well I'm a shy person? This was in 2012 and 2013.

Seriously, this person just wanted to humilate me


-I was just fielding, doing my own thing and at another time getting a drink.
-The way she behaved is unjustified, there's no need to put someone on the spot like that.

Another time she did the same thing on the stage, she goes "where's me" maybe wanting others to laugh.

-Is there a reason for this? She only did it to me, she called up the sports team members and when she said this, she already knew I was there

in 2014 there a lady called K and everyone heard this, while I was fielding in a sports match in August 2014 which she was sitting with the ladies as a spectator where the spectators were sitting, she goes loudly while I was encouraging my team mates "look at how he talks" "look at how he talks". She didn't even offer an apology and no body told her off. So many people were there.

-I was encouragement my team mates, surely nothing wrong with that?

Approax about 40 minutes later when it was our time to bat I walked past all the ladies while they were sitting to go to find my batting partner and they all started to laugh while I was walking past them and they laughed some more as I tried to find my batting partner, laughing was is ok, but to laugh 3 more times after that while I went to find him? They was looking at me and laughed more and more.

-I already said, I was just walking and looking for my team mate and they all laughed and kept laughing
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I'm so sorry you've been bullied, Alpha03 It must be really tough for you. Please don't give up. You're strong. Just try to ignore this kind of people and move one. They don't deserve your attention. I'm so sorry, I know it's hard. Remember that we're here for you. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help you. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this
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Again, I don't see the assumption this is a personal attack directed at you specifically. What I do see is someone personalising everything that is said is about them when it isn't necessarily so. It is easy to fall into the trap of assuming everything is about you - especially when we are vulnerable to the anxiety of 'what people will think about us' in the first place. Is it possible this is what is happening? Is it then possible you are looking for examples of people ganging up on you? There is a bigger issue here than concluding these people are bullying you.

Perhaps indeed they are, but I just can't make this conclusion based on what you have related. It seems rather convoluted and not quite logical. It is reasonable to me then to wonder if bullying you is not the case at all.
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