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#21
I hope things end up working out for you. Keep us updated on how things go when you talk with him again. Can understand you being hurt how he keeps canceling plans. Just make sure to have a talk with him if he continues to do so. Hope things work out!
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#22
I would make your own plans...and squeeze him in when & if you can. Becoming overly available may put pressure on him, and can become tiring. Filling your time with your own interests will cause him to seek out time with you.
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second you've found something that is not meshing, value wise between your friend and you. He does not think it as critical to stick to "plans" made all the time and that's no more or less right or wrong than your strict thinking that if you make a plan you stick to it no matter what. For me, your way of thinking would be far too rigid, though I am not saying it's wrong it's just the way you are. Instead of viewing things as if your friend is entirely in the wrong and in a way offending you, why not see the fact that you view plans for meetings differently. He's more casual and laid back about plans and you are rigid. From this perspective perhaps you can approach him in a way that lets him know that you are a strict person with such things, without making him feel like he's "letting you down" and you'll be able to come up with a compromise that benefits both. |
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Let him know NICELY that youre sick of it. Dont attack, just say calmly i want you to make me a priority. And spoil him daily to know hes one as well. Much luck to you.
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Moose, this so called relationship is over. And I was correct, in addition to not being into her he has a drinking problem and is wasted daily. So she is luckily not wasting time on him anymore, although it was not dating in a classic sense like doing stuff getting to know each other. She just visited him weekly and stayed the night and he got wasted. So she certainly doesn’t need this kind of relationship and this kind of man in her life.
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