Negative connotation with names?

Recently I went to a family gathering. A couple of new friends showed up. I was introduced to them and they looked at each other and said, "Oh, your names is B_____?" and chuckled. We know another "B_____" and that's it.

Later, we were playing card games over dessert, and my aunt said, "It's your turn, B_____" The new friends said, B_____....we can't get over the fact that your name is B_____" And I politely smiled and said, "Oh..." and then the game went on.

It's not my fault that my name is B______, like I had a choice over that. Some people have negative association with certain names (like it was their ex's, etc.) but is that fair?

No it is not your fault but you do have a chose. You can change your name if you do not like it. If my thing they call mother named me something stupid like Apple I would be changing that as soon as I could or call myself by an alias.

If I understand your post, It sounds like they were scoffing at your name because they don’t like some other person with your same name.

You ask, ‘is that fair?’

IDK, fair?

When I was around 20, somebody with my same name became infamous in the news, and people would comment like that when they’d hear my same name. Once her notoriety died down, that stopped.

Okay, I do have negative connotations with certain names. "Paul" is the first that comes to mind. I associate names with my youth, particularly when they come with difficult memories. The negative connotations are never humorous to me. They are usually difficult for me. How unfortunate that I ended up marrying a "Paul". I recall warning bells going off when I first met him complete with an ick, yuck reaction entirely on account of the name. I couldn't help it. I should have listened to my gut feeling and instinct. I am sorry to all the "Pauls" out there but I really haven't had the greatest of experiences with them. I have come to dread the name.

But!

I also have positive connotations with names too; and, this happens far more frequently than the negative ones. For instance, there was a fellow named "Kim" I knew in my youth who I thought was amazing - and he treated me well too. I have grown to love the name for a male and every male "Kim" I have met since has been an awesome individual. Hearing the name always brightens my day.

Were you feeling uncomfortable or anxious at the gathering? Could have clouded the way you felt about these 2 women. They seem rather silly and outgoing and sorta weird, lol, but in my view, it sounds like they meant no harm. It probably would have helped if they explained what type of person B is and what they think of her.

That's pretty dumb to judge an unknown person by their name. Why people do it? :c

I know they meant no harm. I should have asked.

it's not your fault your name is whatever it is but it sounds like some superficial people that really should be of no concern to you. if they are that superficial chalk this up to the knowledge that they are ones that likely won't be good for becoming friends with lol. Idk I see their behavior as really childish and something you shouldn't even bother to think about anymore but also the silver lining that they were quick to show their true colors and now you know to avoid them.

I was a kid and my nickname was BJ. lol.

I had to end that.

I've gotten teased for my name as a kid because it's culturally different. But I think it sounds nice in Spanish.

How rude. Just rude. Who makes comments about other people’s names!

I'm so sorry you're hurting so much, ennie I agree with what all the others have already wisely said better than I ever could. You've been given some great advice on this thread. I'd suggest to follow it if you can. I'll try not to repeat it too much. I wouldn't take those comments too seriously if you can. It seems like they were just some silly comments. Of course it's not your fault if you have that name. Sometimes names can have a negative connotation to other people, or even positive. I don't think you can truly avoid that. As long as they don't straight up offend you for it, I'd suggest to just take it as a light joke. Nothing too serious. There's nothing wrong with your name. Of course, if you feel uncomfortable with it for your own personal reasons, you can always change it or use a nickname, like MoxieDoxie has already suggested. That's your decision. Either way, I wouldn't worry too much about it. That's just my opinion though. The final decisione is up to you. Remember that we're here for you if you need it. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help you. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. I'm so sorry you have to deal with all of this, ennie

That's ridiculous.

There was an amazing Paul in my life when I was growing up. I'm sorry that name is upsetting to you. I secretly don't prefer those with the name Susan. When I meet a Susan, I'm like "please don't be a *****" in my head. So I can relate to your anecdote.