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#21
Is she complaining that you don’t call often enough? Hm. She can always call herself too. Or maybe she could face the reality that maybe you don’t want to call more often because of things she says when you call! You can’t please some people!
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My one sister told me that Mom never calls her, only she calls Mom and asked me if Mom is the same with me. At that time, Mom was not at all like that with me. But since this, Mom has given me the same silent treatment. However, just as I write this post, Mom called and did say she is coming to visit and bringing chicken soup from the store. Maybe when she’s here, I’ll get her to make a conference call to my sisters and just have it out. They’ll all say they love me and they are sorry and we’ll ‘move on’ in whatever capacity that may be. Never mind the trauma this put me and my family through. The depressive episode I suffered from this was more traumatic to me than any other prior trauma. I told them I have PTSD. They 1. Don’t believe it, 2. Don’t care __________________ "And don't say it hasn't been a little slice of heaven, 'cause it hasn't!" . About Me--T |
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#23
Like WTF, she now feels I’ve been punished enough and she’s trying to show she’s such a loving, caring mother she’s bringing chicken soup?!
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I realize how much you need your family to love and support you but asking your mom to do this is more unhealthy stuff.
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This was my one sister, lol! __________________ "And don't say it hasn't been a little slice of heaven, 'cause it hasn't!" . About Me--T |
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#29
First off, nothing you've posted now and in the times before appear to me to be shallow at all. just so you know...
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Right then and there, I would have honestly ended the conversation with "well that's about it, really nothing going on but thanks for checking on me!" Quote:
I think I've mentioned previously that your situation is similar to mine in some ways. I can't help but think that even though it's hard to do, its probably best that you just walk away.. in time you'll be less connected and worried about gaining their affection, loyalty or anything and you'll find better people than those you call family now (only by blood) |
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The most tragic part is we are all good people. I had a good relationship with all of them; even mom. There is no reason for all this abuse!
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I have been dealing with an older sister that also likes to make up her own facts. I have been having a very hard time because of how my sister does this while having been given so much control over my parents. My father just passed away and that was a very unhealthy experience for me as my sister needed to invade my space when I went to see him to say my goodbyes. I am now in the middle of experiencing my mother dying and am experiencing that same challenge from my sister and I have not even gotten over all the dysfunction surrounding my father's passing yet. I am seriously at the point where I don't want to be around my older sister, even if that means I could only manage to visit my mother once to say my goodbyes and once again had to experience my sister looking for a way to invade my time with her too. I know I am a nice person and never did the things my sister has accused me of doing. I don't want to expose myself to her and her lies anymore. My sister doesn't want to know anything but her OWN STORY that is twisted and untrue. With people like this it's a waste of time to try to change them. It's sad that it turns out that way, I know how you feel, but some people for whatever reason need to live in their own little made up worlds. |
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I'm so sorry you are hurting Insecure people feel the need to put others down to feel good about themselves. How long have they been like this? We all have limits and we can only take crap from someone for so long before we say enough is enough.
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As a whole family collectively, I would say we were a good family. I never experienced this kind of trauma until this incident. My relationship with my mom, I’d have said was a very good one. While she did ‘disown’ me at 18, I honestly wasn’t that upset about it. She started to give me real struggle once I married, ruining holidays, more ‘disowning’ silent treatment that would last to eternity. It was always me to have to call her to make peace. She’s sick herself and got a lot worse to what I feel is diagnosable at this point. I never had a bad relationship with my sisters. One sister, moved as far as she can get. I’ve maybe seen her a dozen times in 30 years. We did get close recently by phone, and I went there to visit. It was such a good visit, we were talking about my moving there! My other sister lives close enough that she visited Mom all the time, and I’d see her then. I would go visit her often with my husband and kids. We always had a great time! My step dad is just a simple, nice man. There’s nothing more to him. __________________ "And don't say it hasn't been a little slice of heaven, 'cause it hasn't!" . About Me--T |
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#36
You have no obligations towards these people.
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#37
I’m ready to accept what this is. I’m ready to move on from the family emotionally. I did all I could, and said my piece. That’s all I can do. Whatever happens or doesn’t, whatever is more said or not, it won’t come from me and I just won’t respond to argue. This all was a shocking and traumatic tragedy. Hard to mentally accept it happened.
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Ugh. I told the doctor about the family fall out taking such an emotional toll on me because it all ties to why I am having physical issues. She said, “Where is your family to hold you up during this?” I said, “It’s just me, alone.” Well, I do have you guys, and a friend or two. I’m ashamed it’s all out in the open in my medical records now. It’s the truth, though, and I can’t hide it anymore.
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Just a rant— Mom told me that my sisters and I were all wrong, they are very angry at me, and I should write them a letter of apology. I let her have it. That was the other day when I “said my piece”. “I will NOT be apologizing to my sisters!” She triggers rage in me.
Firstly, I can’t believe anything Mom says because she has no more credibility. I’ve caught her in many alternate truths. Meh, no sense in rehashing. She’s got me thinking about writing some passive aggressive letter. Not gonna do it. Mom triggers me too much to speak to her. I’m stuck. To go no contact is unbearable and to stay connected is triggering. __________________ "And don't say it hasn't been a little slice of heaven, 'cause it hasn't!" . About Me--T |
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I can relate to being triggered by a family member. Though it feels impolite to say, "It's none of your business" perhaps that is what is appropriate given the history of the quarrel. Last edited by Anonymous55879; Mar 15, 2019 at 11:17 AM.. Reason: TMI |
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