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Default Mar 21, 2019 at 05:23 AM
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I did not really know where to put this thread, but I chose here. Has anyone read the Psych Central article on Gas Lighting tactics that narcissists use? Describes my father in each paragraph. My mother was as well to a point, but not quite as bad. My mother used the "I never said that" or, "I don't remember saying anything like that". Interesting report. Anyone else's thoughts?

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Can you share a link? I am terrible with the search function...

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I had a friend who I think was a narcissist. Her gaslighting made me so unsure of myself that I needed to have my mother and gf read our text conversations to make sure that I wasn't perceiving things weirdly. She projected all of her faults onto me, it was maddening and crazy, and she would not take accountability for her actions.

Notice, I said I 'had' a friend. Could not deal with her anymore and after distance am realizing what a shitshow being her friend was.
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Default Mar 21, 2019 at 10:41 PM
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. I never said or did that. You’re imagining things.
When I saw this it's actually how I have responded to a toxic person accusing me of doing something I never did. The individual pulled some accusations that I know for a fact I never did. So what about the person accusing you of something you never did?
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I had a friend who I think was a narcissist. Her gaslighting made me so unsure of myself that I needed to have my mother and gf read our text conversations to make sure that I wasn't perceiving things weirdly. She projected all of her faults onto me, it was maddening and crazy, and she would not take accountability for her actions.

Notice, I said I 'had' a friend. Could not deal with her anymore and after distance am realizing what a shitshow being her friend was.

My mother projected hers on me as well.

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Default Mar 23, 2019 at 05:32 PM
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Gaslighting makes confrontation and conflict resolution absolutely impossible. It takes two to work things out, but when you get dismissed as needing counseling or too sensitive, it blocks the road to a further conversation.

Gaslighting can happen in very subtle ways also. Some people are not overt as to say "You are crazy." Good actors could easily act concerned and say that they are concerned about your mental health.

I love Shahida's articles on PC. They are highly informative.
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My birth family constantly did this to me. It's crazy making!

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The birth family kept doing this to me.

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