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Mar 24, 2019 at 02:34 PM
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My ex and I broke up about 3 months ago, after three years of a relationship. We traveled all around the world together and built a great life for ourselves. When we broke up, I lost everything. The apartment we had, the dog we shared, and the friends we shared, all gone. After going on a dating binge, I did not find anybody who wanted anything more than just a quick ****. The fact that he fell out of love with me and that I can't find anyone to replace him is beginning to make me feel like I don't deserve love at all. I realize that believing that will cause others to believe that as well, so my question is, how can I learn to love myself?
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Mar 24, 2019 at 03:15 PM
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I'm so sorry you're hurting so much, TheNightWhistle
 Please don't give up. I understand it must be very hard for you to go through all of this. Please don't be so hard on yourself. You DO deserve to be loved just like everyone else does! You ahve absolutely nothing lacking in you that other people have. You're just as wonderful as everyone else, just like the way you are. Please remember that. It's not easy to learn to love ourselves, especially after we broke up with someone. The good news is that it IS possible! It will just take some time and hard work, but I'm usre you'll be able to get through all of this! Just try to do your best. That's all you can do after all, and it's more than enough! Do you see a therapist? Maybe that could help! You could learn new ways to cope with you feelings! Please do consider it if you can and if you want. I feel like it may really help you right now. Do you have a support system IRL? Any other friends or family members that you reach out to? It helps to be surrounded by people we love and that love us back when we're going through all of this. Just remember to take all the time you need. Just take it one step at the time. Take baby steps. No need to hurry. I'm sure you'll be able to get through all of this. I believe in you! We all believe in you! We're all rooting for you! Things can and will get better. I promise you that. I'm sure you'll be able to get through all of this. Remember that we're here for you if you need it. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help you. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. I'm so sorry you have to deal with all of this, TheNightWhistle. Please don't give up. Try to hang on. You're a strong, wonderful person. Please remember that. Stay strong. Stay safe and take care of yourself. You're awesome! You're strong! You're a warrior! Believe in yourself! I'm sure you'll be able to get through all of this. I'm so sorry you're going through all of this! Please don't give up! Try to hang on! Believe in yourself! Keep fighting! Please don't give up hope!
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Mar 24, 2019 at 07:13 PM
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Here are links to 5 articles, from PC's archives, that offer advice on how to love yourself, plus 2 that offer tips for healing from heartbreak & one by DocJohn on how to heal from past hurts:
8 Steps to Like Yourself (More) Self-Love is Not a Crime: Learning to Love Yourself How to Start Loving Yourself How to Be Loving Toward Yourself When You Actually Don't Love Yourself how to love yourself | Spirituality and Mental Health https://psychcentral.com/blog/help-o...om-heartbreak/ https://psychcentral.com/blog/10-tip...-broken-heart/ https://psychcentral.com/blog/learni...ys-to-move-on/  
__________________ "I may be older but I am not wise / I'm still a child's grown-up disguise / and I never can tell you what you want to know / You will find out as you go." (from: "A Nightengale's Lullaby" - Julie Last) |
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Mar 24, 2019 at 07:29 PM
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Mar 24, 2019 at 08:34 PM
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Have you thought about seeing a Therapist to help you process the break up ? Might be very helpful __________________ Helping others gets me out of my own head ~ |
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Mar 25, 2019 at 05:26 AM
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I see you are in Montreal, is any therapy covered by your health system? Hang in there. Breaks up could be rough but it should get better
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