Codependent - Forums at Psych Central



advertisement
Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 03-16-2019, 08:43 PM #1
Buffy01 Buffy01 is offline
Magnate
 
Member Since: Oct 2017
Location: USA
Posts: 2,430
Buffy01 Buffy01 is offline
Magnate
Buffy01 has no updates.
 
Member Since: Oct 2017
Location: USA
Posts: 2,430 (SuperPoster!)

1 yr Member
3,573 hugs
given
Default Codependent

Has anyone ever experienced codependency in a relationship? Anyone ever felt like they were people pleaser?
Buffy01 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote

advertisement
Old 03-16-2019, 08:54 PM #2
Ylba Ylba is offline
Member
 
Member Since: Apr 2018
Location: US
Posts: 111
Ylba Ylba is offline
Member
Ylba has no updates.
 
Member Since: Apr 2018
Location: US
Posts: 111

1 yr Member
Default Re: Codependent

Quote:
Originally Posted by Buffy01 View Post
Has anyone ever experienced codependency in a relationship? Anyone ever felt like they were people pleaser?
I'm not a people pleaser but I'm in a very codependent relationship. I've been in it for 5 years now and have wanted to leave for the majority of it.
Ylba is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Old 03-17-2019, 04:48 AM #3
sarahsweets's Avatar
sarahsweets sarahsweets is offline
Grand Poohbah
 
Member Since: Dec 2018
Location: New Jersey
Posts: 1,970
sarahsweets sarahsweets is offline
Grand Poohbah
sarahsweets's Avatar
sarahsweets Humor is my end game..
 
Member Since: Dec 2018
Location: New Jersey
Posts: 1,970 (SuperPoster!)

107 hugs
given
Default Re: Codependent

I think many of us have experienced codependency in relationships. I think it's very common for people with mental illness to attract or be a part of the lives of other people with mental illness. The key is recognizing it and moving forward from it. It is not a healthy way to live. Sometimes we have to disengage from people that we love because of codependency
__________________
"I carried a watermelon?"

President of the no F's given society.
sarahsweets is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Old 03-17-2019, 09:02 AM #4
healingme4me's Avatar
healingme4me healingme4me is offline
Perpetually Pondering
Community Liaison
 
Member Since: Apr 2013
Location: New England
Posts: 45,976
healingme4me healingme4me is offline
Perpetually Pondering
Community Liaison
healingme4me's Avatar
healingme4me Needs a little reading lamp.
 
Member Since: Apr 2013
Location: New England
Posts: 45,976 (SuperPoster!)

5 yr Member
6,419 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Re: Codependent

Quote:
Originally Posted by Buffy01 View Post
Has anyone ever experienced codependency in a relationship? Anyone ever felt like they were people pleaser?
Yes. And yes.
healingme4me is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Old 03-18-2019, 01:47 PM #5
MrBrains MrBrains is offline
Junior Member
 
Member Since: Mar 2019
Location: MS
Posts: 22
MrBrains MrBrains is offline
Junior Member
MrBrains has no updates.
 
Member Since: Mar 2019
Location: MS
Posts: 22

Default Re: Codependent

Yes, I was very codependent with my ex wife.
__________________
"Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping."
"Pursue what is meaningful, not what is expedient."
MrBrains is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Old 03-18-2019, 08:28 PM #6
ennie's Avatar
ennie ennie is offline
Veteran Member
 
Member Since: Oct 2018
Location: United States of America
Posts: 718
ennie ennie is offline
Veteran Member
ennie's Avatar
ennie has no updates.
 
Member Since: Oct 2018
Location: United States of America
Posts: 718 (SuperPoster!)

1,435 hugs
given
Default Re: Codependent

Oh yeah, it's part of being an INFJ. But I'm working on it.
ennie is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Old 03-19-2019, 03:22 AM #7
Anonymous55879
Guest
 
Posts: n/a
Anonymous55879
Guest
Anonymous55879 has no updates. Edit
 
Posts: n/a

Default Re: Codependent

Yes, sometimes I didn't even realize it because it crept up on me after many years and I was modeling some of my dad's codependent behaviors. Some of it I need to change or have already changed. Talking about my interactions between my H and son and me with a therapist helped. Where you draw the line is your own choice. I am learning better when to say "No" but sometimes I also want to do things for others. That is OK too.

When you are married, you depend on each other. So you have to make compromises with your partner that make sense for both of you. How dependent you are on each other is a personal choice from my POV.
  Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Hugs from:
"Thanks for this!" says:
Old 03-20-2019, 07:15 AM #8
Sisabel's Avatar
Sisabel Sisabel is offline
Poohbah
 
Member Since: May 2018
Location: USA
Posts: 1,375
Sisabel Sisabel is offline
Poohbah
Sisabel's Avatar
Sisabel always trying...
 
Member Since: May 2018
Location: USA
Posts: 1,375 (SuperPoster!)

1 yr Member
363 hugs
given
Default Re: Codependent

Yes and I am always working on it. Once you see it, you never want to fall back into it but you have to stay aware.
Sisabel is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Hugs from:
"Thanks for this!" says:
Old 03-20-2019, 07:20 AM #9
TishaBuv's Avatar
TishaBuv TishaBuv is offline
Elder
 
Member Since: Dec 2014
Location: USA
Posts: 6,866
TishaBuv TishaBuv is offline
Elder
TishaBuv's Avatar
TishaBuv has no updates.
 
Member Since: Dec 2014
Location: USA
Posts: 6,866 (SuperPoster!)

3 yr Member
831 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Re: Codependent

It sounds like this might be an issue for me. Ive certainly never been called a people pleaser, lol! Perhaps I do eventually do exactly as they want, just after I bytch and cry about it. Yuck ME
__________________
"And don't say it hasn't been a little slice of heaven, 'cause it hasn't!"
. About Me--T
TishaBuv is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Hugs from:
"Thanks for this!" says:
Old 03-21-2019, 12:12 AM #10
0notreallyhere0 0notreallyhere0 is offline
New Member
 
Member Since: Mar 2019
Location: US
Posts: 5
0notreallyhere0 0notreallyhere0 is offline
New Member
0notreallyhere0 has no updates.
 
Member Since: Mar 2019
Location: US
Posts: 5

Default Re: Codependent

Do not consider myself a "people pleaser" by any means but I have let things slide when it comes to loved ones. Not a lot of stuff but "too much" in hindsight. I've gotten better over the years and now it's a situational issue.
For example, pretty sure my current relationship is one of codependency. Things are much more complicated than I'm willing to say atm. But yes, I have been in a codependent relationship and it sucks. And depending on what kind of dependency you fall under (or if you're the one someone is dependent on), you can feel trapped.
0notreallyhere0 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
"Thanks for this!" says:
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off



All times are GMT -5. The time now is 02:06 AM.

Powered by vBulletin® — Copyright © 2000 - 2019, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.



 

advertisement

Psych Central Forums

Psych Central is the leading mental health website, overseen by mental health professionals since 1995.

 

Helplines and Lifelines

The material on this site is for informational purposes only, and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment provided by a qualified health care provider. .

Always consult your doctor or mental health professional before trying anything you read here.
Please read the full disclaimer.