Relationship deniers

I recently saw a low budget indie movie that for me was powerful. It concerns (and it says at the start it was based on a true story) a teen girl and boy from different sides of the tracks that through their every day interactions grow a deep but unspoken love that is never acted on. It is only the audience that gets to know the full depth of both. Mostly it isn't acted on because of social constraints but.. not in a sad way... they just are in different spheres and should necessarily do anything to change that. But it is sad because it highlights how much love and spark between two people just isn't recognized as a "thing" because it isn't the "relationship" proper.

Everyone's review talks about this and talks about it being haunting and they can't stop thinking about it. I suspect what everyone is reaction to is this movie sort of giving us permission to recognize these smaller but important relationships and acknowledge to ourselves that they did mean something, we weren't just imagining them. Even the writer says she hopes it has people be nicer to each other when they can.

Personally, I felt the same reaction and I realized that for a while now I have thought that I see relationships where most people would tell me I am not really seeing anything and this movie was confirmation to me and the other viewers that we are all on the right track.

I feel like for me there are like stages of relationships what we all have every day. But really can't be pursued due to social constraints. Each relationship may be just as deep and fulfilling as perhaps a physical relationship you have with a boyfriend (which indeed might be less) But society always values the "most severe relationship". Ie. living with someone or marrying them as a "relationship proper" and I feel like there are a lot of relationship deniers who only want to see this and try to ignore or make fun of everything else?

I suspect that maybe these relationship deniers are unable to see the smaller relationships as something of meaning and so push for the bigger gestures. Some imho are just mean people who want to use others so they deny any bigger relationship to have bind them to kind behavior or loyalty.

These things don't have to be romantic but for an example someone you see at a retail store all the time for years. It would be inappropriate to take it out of the store context but you enjoy your time with them, you look forward to seeing them, your sad when they aren't there, etc.

What do you think?