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Good job! It sounds like youíve been working hard at this. Thereís always room for improvement. Thatís why we are here to talk about it I have had a hard time with saying no but Iíve learned to do it. For me, it became easier in some situations but not in others. Sometimes I have no trouble being very firm and direct and other times I still struggle a great deal with it. Family versus work versus social situations all present different kinds of challenges for me. Honestly, sometimes I still use the excuse route and sometimes Iím direct with outright saying no. Iím not afraid to say no anymore, in many cases, but I evaluate each situation differently. Good job on taking care of yourself and with time and practice this will get easier.
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We all begin to explore the word "no" when we are VERY young. So, some of our discomforts about saying "no" can really go way back in each of us. How a parent handles this stage can leave someone feeling bad about saying "no", because when we were experimenting with that word a parent might have punished us instead of giving us options and helping us understand how to use "no" better. Here is a link of how a parent should handle this stage, some of us may not have had that, but instead were punished for saying "no". It's interesting in that some of these ways to address the no challenge can be used in our now that can be less harsh instead of it becoming a confrontation that we may have experienced before we even know what it even really meant.

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