Ghosted & It Hurts

Buffy01 · Mar 30, 2019 at 09:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Have Hope

A dear gf of mine that I met online a few years ago suddenly ghosted me last year and it really hurts.

We had been pen pals for about two years, emailing lengthy and personal emails to each other. We became very close friends and related on numerous levels. We helped each other through our respective life challenges as well.

She traveled overseas to work a year ago and then suddenly ghosted me out of the blue. All I am left with is: what did I say or do wrong?

I don't obsess over it, but I randomly thought of her this morning, hoping she is Ok and it hurt all over again.

So why do people ghost each other? Especially when you've met online? Do people think it's easier because they've never met in person?

All it does is leave bad feelings and it leaves the ghosted questioning what they did to turn them off.

I would have preferred if she had just been honest with me if she no longer wished to continue being pen pals. Honesty would hurt too, but far less than ghosting.

I'm sorry that this has happened to you! I been ghost multiple times. Some people ghost because they are cowards and don't really care how this affect a person they ghosted. They don't want to confront the person and give them a breakup they deserve.

Buffy01 · Mar 30, 2019 at 09:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Have Hope

I tried... several times. I emailed a few different times saying what's going on? Did I do something wrong? And are you OK? Then in my last email I told her that what she did really hurt me. NO replies to any of my last emails. Then of course I worried that something bad had happened to her. And that's what happens when you get ghosted.

That true about being ghost. Remember it was all about her and not you.

Buffy01 · Mar 30, 2019 at 09:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Nowinners

Remember, you might not have done anything. There could be something going on with her that you just do not know about.

I agree! I wish that I had thought about that myself! Great advice!

Have Hope · Mar 31, 2019 at 07:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Buffy01

I'm sorry that this has happened to you! I been ghost multiple times. Some people ghost because they are cowards and don't really care how this affect a person they ghosted. They don't want to confront the person and give them a breakup they deserve.

Thank you, Buffy01!!