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Old 04-12-2019, 04:01 PM #21
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You are being much too hard on yourself. You are only human, you are not perfect and neither is this guy perfect. It's never too late to write this guy and appologize to him and that you never wanted to hurt him but that you were just confused at the time. Most likely because this guy was still young at the time he took a chance and got hurt and may wonder what was wrong with him where he wasn't good enough for you. I think it's ok to let him know that it wasn't that there was anything wrong with him. After all he left and you were not committed or anything. And you just were not ready for some kind of commitment either.

He may accept that and he may not, but at least you relieved that guilt and regret you hang onto.
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Please donít be ashamed. You did nothing shameful. Can you show this thread to a psychologist or therapist if you donít know how to explain what bothers you?
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Do anyone know how to remove this thread? I can't really believe of what happened to me and also (mainly) for privacy
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Do anyone know how to remove this thread? I can't really believe of what happened to me and also (mainly) for privacy
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Please don't be ashamed of expressing your feelings Gasplessy. A lot of us could relate to the feelings you were expressing. Feelings aren't wrong and the whole dating scene can be quite awkward.

However, you can send a message to a moderator (I have sent a private messages to CANDC and she was very understanding ). They will remove up to 5 posts (and perhaps an entire thread). Do whatever feels right to you. It's all good.
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Couldn't contact him, it's too late
The problem is my life is general, completely screwd, i'm so pathetic

Seeing the psychoterapist tomorrow

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Youíre not pathetic.

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Couldn't contact him, it's too late
The problem is my life is general, completely screwd, i'm so pathetic

Seeing the psychoterapist tomorrow

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Take care of your life, don't do like me
Good luck with psychotherapist
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Thank you for the kind support

I saw the psychotherapist today and had a cry after a long time
(about my whole personal situation)
I hope to fix things somehow

After a walk in the park i was finally considering to write the guy a message and send it directly on his phone

Stupid brain fact:
5 minutes ago i was sure i was going to do it, then a friend asked me if I had heard any more news about the sad accident at Notre Dame and after that I began to have intrusive thoughts about the possibility that he's following whats going on in France and by suddendly receiving a message from me i would appear like an omen or something like that lol
Oh my
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Short update, sorry
I will delete the thread

I eventually did it

sent him a quite long message (eew) to explain, even if I did try to keep it short
I feel very awkward and insane. cried a bit to release the tension. but I think it's related to not having been felt in control during the last year with depression. This episode was representative of a sort of mental coma i was into, isolation

The cringe is so strong

Grieving a bit because I know that (if he'll ever see the message, that I - regretted it already, ahah- sent on his phone) it's now really over, he already moved on and will. He's probably abroad with a new job

I just hope he will laugh, best possibility

I hope i will be able to laugh, too, someday
A funny anectode
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