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Old 04-14-2019, 01:37 PM #11
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When did these thoughts occur, and why? I agree with Skeezyks. Talking to someone might be beneficial. There are reddit subforums that might help in that regard if PC doesn't end up doing so. Otherwise, I suggest talking to a proffesional. What Bill3 said is correct, but search it up yourself if you're still not confident. Or even ask the one you were talking to.

As to not wanting to burden your husband.. well, if your recent emotional breakdown is any indication of what's to come, then perhaps disclosing the cause is better then leaving him confused and maybe speculating on what he's doing wrong.
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The correct phone number for the National Suicide Hotline in the United States is 1-800-273-TALK.
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Thanks for all your support.

My partner had a member of his staff on phone to him recently saying she was suicidal and also today we found out his mum took an overdose as she found her husband had an affair. Everyone is ok thankfully.

Obviously this now just makes it incredibly difficult for me to put this on him
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(((Icedgem))),

The important thing for you to do is reach out for help and to see a therapist. With the right therapy you can get past these feelings of wanting to give up on life and regain yourself and finally heal.
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Thanks for all your support.

My partner had a member of his staff on phone to him recently saying she was suicidal and also today we found out his mum took an overdose as she found her husband had an affair. Everyone is ok thankfully.

Obviously this now just makes it incredibly difficult for me to put this on him
I personally never said you have to put it on this guy, you have to seek professional help.
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I can say that hotlines are a real great help. I was in a situation similar to yours. I would constantly think about killing myself. But I would never act on them and the fact that I was having these thoughts terrified me. After help from here, hotlines, therapist, and meditation I got better.
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I can say that hotlines are a real great help. I was in a situation similar to yours. I would constantly think about killing myself. But I would never act on them and the fact that I was having these thoughts terrified me. After help from here, hotlines, therapist, and meditation I got better.
How did the therapist help?

I've been reading online about intrusive thoughts and this is exactly what I have. No desire at all to act anything out or go through with suicide
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I've been reading online about intrusive thoughts and this is exactly what I have. No desire at all to act anything out or go through with suicide


He taught me that there just random thoughts that I have a habit on obsessing over. But the thoughts are just thoughts and they cannot hurt me. I also learned thought stopping. Which I did by keeping a rubber band around my wrist. Every time I had a suicidal or violent thought I would snap myself with the rubber band. Itís basically telling the subconscious that whenever it sends my conscious a suicidal thought pain is inflicted. Therefore training the brain to quit sending them. Kind of like a shock collar on a dog. I admit that itís like self harm, but I have found that it works very well.

I went from thinking about suicide dozens of times a day to maybe once if that. I donít even need a rubber band now since I have trained my subconscious mind. Mindfulness meditation has also helped me a lot.
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((Icedgem)),

The therapist I saw was an experienced trauma therapist, I suffer from complex ptsd. He helped me realize things and LISTENED to me and these suicidal impulses I struggled with got weaker and weaker. Now I am working with a therapist that practices Accelerated Resolution Therapy, and though I have just started that, I have found it helpful.

Your partner isn't a therapist, more than likely doesn't have the skills to help you and may respond to you in ways that can make you feel like you are a burden to him. That's the last thing you need, instead you need a professional that can help you gain some relief rather than holding it all inside you.

Patience with self is key and important in your healing and gaining. You "can" make gains on this challenge, and these suicidal thoughts are telling you to reach out for help instead of struggling on your own.
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Thank you both thats really helpful.

The reason I want to tell my other half is because I do want to share it with him and don't want to keep it hidden but it's so hard. It was hard enough for me to type it out on here
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