Last-minute "itis" is SO RUDE - Page 2 - Forums at Psych Central



advertisement
Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 04-13-2019, 07:15 PM #11
Emily Fox Seaton's Avatar
Emily Fox Seaton Emily Fox Seaton is offline
Poohbah
 
Member Since: Dec 2016
Location: Senegal
Posts: 1,319
Emily Fox Seaton Emily Fox Seaton is offline
Poohbah
Emily Fox Seaton's Avatar
Emily Fox Seaton has no updates.
 
Member Since: Dec 2016
Location: Senegal
Posts: 1,319

2 yr Member
282 hugs
given
Default Re: Last-minute "itis" is SO RUDE

Quote:
Originally Posted by StreetcarBlanche View Post
Sorry to hear your support system of friends are moving away. I hope you'll find new friends too. I don't even have that anymore as they both live in another country (my closest friends).
Sorry when I say moving away I just mean that most people are being caught up in current societal rudeness. I feel certain that when I was younger people did know that it was wrong to cancel on someone in the last moment and they wouldn't do it. Just the same that I know people knew the basics of manners and conformed to them. But they just don't anymore. And it is insanely miserable for those of us who do know what manners are.

Don't ever take that. Don't ever!! Life is just too short.

A few years ago someone at work who I didn't even think was a friend betrayed me. When others didn't stand up for me I dropped them all. They all thought I was rude but I still don't regret it at all. You don't like me, you will get nothing, NOTHING more from me. Not someone to dump on, not someone on your facebook friend feed. NOTHING.
Emily Fox Seaton is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
"Thanks for this!" says:

advertisement
Old 04-13-2019, 07:23 PM #12
StreetcarBlanche's Avatar
StreetcarBlanche StreetcarBlanche is offline
Member
 
Member Since: Mar 2018
Location: U.S.
Posts: 401
StreetcarBlanche StreetcarBlanche is offline
Member
StreetcarBlanche's Avatar
StreetcarBlanche I don't want realism. I want magic.
 
Member Since: Mar 2018
Location: U.S.
Posts: 401

1 yr Member
108 hugs
given
Default Re: Last-minute "itis" is SO RUDE

Quote:
Originally Posted by Emily Fox Seaton View Post
Sorry when I say moving away I just mean that most people are being caught up in current societal rudeness. I feel certain that when I was younger people did know that it was wrong to cancel on someone in the last moment and they wouldn't do it. Just the same that I know people knew the basics of manners and conformed to them. But they just don't anymore. And it is insanely miserable for those of us who do know what manners are.

Don't ever take that. Don't ever!! Life is just too short.

A few years ago someone at work who I didn't even think was a friend betrayed me. When others didn't stand up for me I dropped them all. They all thought I was rude but I still don't regret it at all. You don't like me, you will get nothing, NOTHING more from me. Not someone to dump on, not someone on your facebook friend feed. NOTHING.
Yes, ok. I'm telling you, with technology now where people can instant message you on Facebook or your cellphone with a text, or FaceTime you or Skype you, they think that justifies being totally dismissive and rude and inconsiderate. People completely lack manners now, b/c they use technology to hide behind and their behavior is atrocious. Just atrocious and juvenile! I hate it!!

Oh, believe you me. I won't take it. I told a guy off, on Facebook, who friended me and just wanted an online girlfriend for attention, but nothing serious or offline. I'm not your Facebook Messenger Madame, pal. F*** YOU!

So, a friend betrayed you at work and then gossiped about you to your coworkers so that they took her side and abandoned you? That's pathetic! I share your philosophy about having good boundaries and good manners: if you treat me like s***, don't expect me to be available to you for anything! It's like that awesome new song from the band The Drums, 626 Bedford Avenue:

Your insecurities are ruining
Everything that we could be
Get your head out of your ***
And take a good look at yourself

I fell in love, and you treat me like sh** (this could apply to platonic friendships too)
(But I keep on coming back)

But I keep on coming back
You might be a psychopath
You might wanna check that
StreetcarBlanche is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Old 04-13-2019, 07:33 PM #13
Emily Fox Seaton's Avatar
Emily Fox Seaton Emily Fox Seaton is offline
Poohbah
 
Member Since: Dec 2016
Location: Senegal
Posts: 1,319
Emily Fox Seaton Emily Fox Seaton is offline
Poohbah
Emily Fox Seaton's Avatar
Emily Fox Seaton has no updates.
 
Member Since: Dec 2016
Location: Senegal
Posts: 1,319

2 yr Member
282 hugs
given
Default Re: Last-minute "itis" is SO RUDE

Quote:
Originally Posted by StreetcarBlanche View Post
Yes, ok. I'm telling you, with technology now where people can instant message you on Facebook or your cellphone with a text, or FaceTime you or Skype you, they think that justifies being totally dismissive and rude and inconsiderate. 
You know, it isn't even that. I am on my condo's board of trustees and several times now trustees just haven't shown up, are over 15 minutes late, OR can't be bothered to have prepared.

Look, when you make a commitment you make a commitment. Of course if you can't come, fine but 24 hours notice is absolutely not out of line.

It is just too bad that we live in this time in the world.
Emily Fox Seaton is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
"Thanks for this!" says:
Old 04-14-2019, 01:49 AM #14
sarahsweets's Avatar
sarahsweets sarahsweets is offline
Grand Poohbah
 
Member Since: Dec 2018
Location: New Jersey
Posts: 1,991
sarahsweets sarahsweets is offline
Grand Poohbah
sarahsweets's Avatar
sarahsweets Humor is my end game..
 
Member Since: Dec 2018
Location: New Jersey
Posts: 1,991 (SuperPoster!)

107 hugs
given
Default Re: Last-minute "itis" is SO RUDE

I think you did the righ.t thing. Unless you want to explain it to her blocking her will get her attention when she feels like giving you the time of day
__________________
"I carried a watermelon?"

President of the no F's given society.
sarahsweets is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
"Thanks for this!" says:
Old 04-14-2019, 01:01 PM #15
StreetcarBlanche's Avatar
StreetcarBlanche StreetcarBlanche is offline
Member
 
Member Since: Mar 2018
Location: U.S.
Posts: 401
StreetcarBlanche StreetcarBlanche is offline
Member
StreetcarBlanche's Avatar
StreetcarBlanche I don't want realism. I want magic.
 
Member Since: Mar 2018
Location: U.S.
Posts: 401

1 yr Member
108 hugs
given
Default Re: Last-minute "itis" is SO RUDE

Quote:
Originally Posted by sarahsweets View Post
I think you did the righ.t thing. Unless you want to explain it to her blocking her will get her attention when she feels like giving you the time of day
Thanks. This next weekend I'm supposed to hang out with a mutual friend who's known this woman since they were in college together. I'm anticipating it will be awkward but I'm HOPING that she'll not bring it up.

The woman I defriended, or is the term 'unfriended' on Facebook, is a selfie-queen who likes to post snarky yet vague comments about her FB friends on her FB wall. I was the target of those posts quite a few times, when she wasn't privately messaging me to be snide and mean to me.
StreetcarBlanche is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off



All times are GMT -5. The time now is 08:39 PM.

Powered by vBulletin® — Copyright © 2000 - 2019, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.



 

advertisement

Psych Central Forums

Psych Central is the leading mental health website, overseen by mental health professionals since 1995.

 

Helplines and Lifelines

The material on this site is for informational purposes only, and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment provided by a qualified health care provider. .

Always consult your doctor or mental health professional before trying anything you read here.
Please read the full disclaimer.