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Default Apr 15, 2019 at 01:40 PM
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I’m trying my best..I just feel so bothered by his behavior..I want to tell him off but it’s not like he will care or respond. If anything it gives him an ego boost to see me doing that
The hard part is trying not to give in to your urges to reason with him now, because you invested 3 months of your life with this guy. I understand. Believe me.

This may help you; write him an email and don't censure yourself AT ALL. When you're done, put it in your draft folder but don't send it. Anytime you want to contact him, go back and read that email where you released all of your anger and resentment and sadness and every emotion you feel. Then, when you're ready, delete it.
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I’m trying my best..I just feel so bothered by his behavior..I want to tell him off but it’s not like he will care or respond. If anything it gives him an ego boost to see me doing that
Gymgirl, don't put your effort into telling him off. He is a broken hurting person and that won't help you or him. Just wish him well and walk away, he is clearly already hurting and doesn't need any more. Be merciful and just walk away and pray he gets help, he is going to really need it.
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Default Apr 15, 2019 at 03:51 PM
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Gymgirl, don't put your effort into telling him off. He is a broken hurting person and that won't help you or him. Just wish him well and walk away, he is clearly already hurting and doesn't need any more. Be merciful and just walk away and pray he gets help, he is going to really need it.
This is excellent advice! Peace wherever possible is always best for all concerned. Beautifully put, Open Eyes!
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Default Apr 15, 2019 at 05:54 PM
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Gymgirl, don't put your effort into telling him off. He is a broken hurting person and that won't help you or him. Just wish him well and walk away, he is clearly already hurting and doesn't need any more. Be merciful and just walk away and pray he gets help, he is going to really need it.
Your right..I guess I was hurting so I wanted to hurt him too..
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Your right..I guess I was hurting so I wanted to hurt him too..
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There will be no more contact and it’s better this way..it hurts me especially with all the hurtful things he said and did but in time I will realize he did me a favor because I dodged a bullet
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There will be no more contact and it’s better this way..it hurts me especially with all the hurtful things he said and did but in time I will realize he did me a favor because I dodged a bullet
Your pain is understandable. Even when a relationship wasn't great, a period of grief is natural and even healing. Be kind to yourself. You deserve peace and joy.
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Your pain is understandable. Even when a relationship wasn't great, a period of grief is natural and even healing. Be kind to yourself. You deserve peace and joy.
Well temporary pain is better than beating a dead horse..he sure as hell wasnt putting any effort
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