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Its hard to not feel satisfied, vindicated or smug when someone gets a taste of their own medicine. But I tend to hope they learn from it. Its not so satisfying when they get the same treatment but do not learn and keep on treating people badly.
Exactly. Totally agree. Yeah like I mentioned, it is a feeling of being sorry it happened but hope they learned their lesson.
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I can understand their feelings, but at the same time, I will be thinking, well that's what you used to do so hopefully this is a learning lesson. I know it sounds rude but that's just how I think. Do you have less sympathy for those who receive the same poor treatment that they have given others?
I wonder if these people even realize that they are being treated the same way they treated you. The narc abusers I know only view themselves as "victims" who are "never wrong."

As far as my sympathy for them, I think it depends on whether they caused it or whether they were innocent. If what they did themselves backfired on them (like they gossiped, got caught, and were shunned out from the social circle), then I wouldn't feel bad, since they are reaping the consequences of their own toxic action.

But if they were completely innocent (which is less likely) I may feel bad for them.
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I wonder if these people even realize that they are being treated the same way they treated you. The narc abusers I know only view themselves as "victims" who are "never wrong."

As far as my sympathy for them, I think it depends on whether they caused it or whether they were innocent. If what they did themselves backfired on them (like they gossiped, got caught, and were shunned out from the social circle), then I wouldn't feel bad, since they are reaping the consequences of their own toxic action.

But if they were completely innocent (which is less likely) I may feel bad for them.
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This is an interesting and timely thread for me because I知 dealing with this type of situation right now. Someone who treated me very badly is getting the same treatment from some other people unexpectedly. I知 in a position to look at this as basically an outside observer. I知 not getting involved. I believe in karma.
I believe that what goes around comes around. And I致e seen it over and over again. Inside I get a certain amount of satisfaction in her getting to feel like she made me feel. But on the other hand I feel a certain amount of sympathy regardless. Like was said though, as a narcissist I doubt she feels anywhere near like I did.
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This is an interesting and timely thread for me because I知 dealing with this type of situation right now. Someone who treated me very badly is getting the same treatment from some other people unexpectedly. I知 in a position to look at this as basically an outside observer. I知 not getting involved. I believe in karma.
I believe that what goes around comes around. And I致e seen it over and over again. Inside I get a certain amount of satisfaction in her getting to feel like she made me feel. But on the other hand I feel a certain amount of sympathy regardless. Like was said though, as a narcissist I doubt she feels anywhere near like I did.
Yeah exactly. What goes around comes around. And if she is narcissistic like you mentioned then unfortunately she probably doesn't care as much since they only care and love themselves. They think they are better than others and perhaps that's why people are treating her that way if she is truly that kind of person.
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I don't know why, but this thread is reminding me of a situation from a few years ago. My best friend in elementary school turned against me and uniting the whole class against me and my other two friends. It was a really horrible time with everyone doing awful things and excluding us. A few years ago, she got in touch with me and we met up. I thought she was going to apologize. Instead I found out that she runs a national anti-bullying organization. I couldn't believe it!

Anyway, it's hard not to feel some satisfaction when you see someone being treated badly when they treated others badly. I doubt they recognize their own behavior reflected back at them.
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I don't know why, but this thread is reminding me of a situation from a few years ago. My best friend in elementary school turned against me and uniting the whole class against me and my other two friends. It was a really horrible time with everyone doing awful things and excluding us. A few years ago, she got in touch with me and we met up. I thought she was going to apologize. Instead I found out that she runs a national anti-bullying organization. I couldn't believe it!

Anyway, it's hard not to feel some satisfaction when you see someone being treated badly when they treated others badly. I doubt they recognize their own behavior reflected back at them.
Wow, how ironic! Well it sounds like she must have learned then. Sorry you had to go through that and I agree, some people are either unaware or don稚 care that they are being hypocritical..
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