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Old 04-17-2019, 02:51 PM #1
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Exclamation Ex boyfriend tried to ask me out!

I was like you MUST be joking! Told him not to come by to drop off my things and take care..he then proceeded to ask me to hang out with him after we cool off..

What happened to never wanting to see me again?? I seriously donít get people!
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You canít control him but you can control what you do. Particularly you can control communication. Why are you talking to him? It is just dragging it longer
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You canít control him but you can control what you do. Particularly you can control communication. Why are you talking to him? It is just dragging it longer
To tell him not to drop my things off
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Time to stop communication.
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Well, that completely negates anything mean and cruel he ever said when you broke up AND everything else he tried to dump on you as a result. So, you must feel a bit better now. Good riddance to him. Definitely do not see him or continue to talk to him.
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I thought you blocked him so he couldnt communicate with you?
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After the two year on/off relationship with one of my addict bfs, we were dating, but he was sporadic and distant in his pursuit of me. As for the dates, I never had a guy come and sit on my couch and get drunk. They all took me out of my house, somewhere.

I went on a cruise with my mom, her friend and daughter. It was a last minute thing and I never told him I was going.

When I returned, he had been calling me and his whole attitude changed when I had now become more unavailable to him. It was then he steadily pursued me. We dated for a solid few months. Then he dumped me by standing me up for a date and never calling me again.

I hate the games. My gut tells me that he is probably more attracted to you now because you are Ďhard to getí.

I support you stepping back, looking at the whole big picture for yourself, and not falling into any traps.
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Well, that completely negates anything mean and cruel he ever said when you broke up AND everything else he tried to dump on you as a result. So, you must feel a bit better now. Good riddance to him. Definitely do not see him or continue to talk to him.
He canít take back what was said
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After the two year on/off relationship with one of my addict bfs, we were dating, but he was sporadic and distant in his pursuit of me. As for the dates, I never had a guy come and sit on my couch and get drunk. They all took me out of my house, somewhere.

I went on a cruise with my mom, her friend and daughter. It was a last minute thing and I never told him I was going.

When I returned, he had been calling me and his whole attitude changed when I had now become more unavailable to him. It was then he steadily pursued me. We dated for a solid few months. Then he dumped me by standing me up for a date and never calling me again.

I hate the games. My gut tells me that he is probably more attracted to you now because you are Ďhard to getí.

I support you stepping back, looking at the whole big picture for yourself, and not falling into any traps.
No matter what I know he is incapable of a healthy relationship. His relationship is with alcohol..of course he likes the ďhard to getĒ but once the novelty wears off his true colors show. No thanks!
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He canít take back what was said
What I meant was obviously he didnít really mean the cruel things he said because he asked you out again.
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