[agapeendeavor]

I have been having extreme difficulty in a long-term mentally/emotionally abusive relationship. I feel like he doesn't respect me because I am always trying to keep the peace by "giving in" to his requests and going along with his askew perception of things. I am sick and tired of this. In another life, I was a very talented, pretty, successful lady. Now I never feel like I am good enough, pretty enough, etc. I am sure that he talks to other women and we have not had intimate relations in 2 months....Not sure if he is just withholding this and affection because he is punishing me or he is getting his pleasure in other ways (other women). I know that he is a porn addict. He denies this but I have caught him. What do I do?

[Open Eyes]

Get out of this relationship, don't take this kind of treatment and decide you deserve better.

[Bill3]

You still are a talented, pretty, successful lady.

But those traits are in hiding at the moment. For safety.

I bet you are right that he doesn’t respect you.

You can’t keep the peace when you are living in a war zone.

You can’t keep the peace when you are under constant attack.

The only solution is to leave.

[divine1966]

Since you asked what do you do. I’d say you leave. Do you live together? Then it might take time to get your stuff etc but you can still move but get stuff later. Whose house/apartment is it? If you don’t live together, then it’s easy. Be done, block him and move on

People don't change. He won't change. He is abusive. What do you do? You leave him. He's already done enough damage. Now it's time to leave and take good care of yourself. (((((hugs)))))

[sarahsweets]

Originally Posted by agapeendeavor

I am sick and tired of this.

Not sure if he is just withholding this and affection because he is punishing me or he is getting his pleasure in other ways (other women). I know that he is a porn addict. He denies this but I have caught him. What do I do?

These are huge red flags. Any partner "punishing" another by withholding intimacy of any kind is a jerk. What makes you suspect he is cheating on you?
I know people feel all kinds of ways about porn but as someone married in a committed relationship I would be hurt if my husband was looking at porn and especially if he was and we were not intimate. I do not believe this makes me insecure because I feel my husband should want me and to do those things with me. I think your mind knows what you need to do its a matter of getting your heart to follow...