I made a huge mistake

If he wants to share something just you and him, he shouldn’t invite friends over. Seriously I’ve met all kind of weird men during my single dating life but this guy gets an award for one of the most bizarre stories I heard.

He was nasty to you but you were the one consoling him. What the..

Please this guy isn’t even safe to be around. He sounds beyond unstable. Locking himself in a bedroom? Are you sure he just drinks? He sounds like he is mixing drinks with pills or some drugs. He is losing it

I really can’t say..he thinks I’m the crazy one for not wanting to leave and told me to get help. Called me a bully even. Fit being upset about being kicked out..wtf

My questions are rhetorical. I don’t mean I actually want to know the answers why he acts this way. It was established that he is an abusive jerk and an addict and this isn’t really a relationship, more like you keep going to his house and drink with him. It doesn’t matter what he does and why. Focus on what you do and why.

Focus on why you keep going to his house not why he acts this way. Focus on why when you are thrown out you are begging to be allowed to stay, don’t focus on why he kicked you out. It doesn’t matter.

It’s an abandonment issue..I literally had a panic attack

Don’t go to his house. He can’t abandon you if you aren’t there.

Trust me that won’t be an issue now. I didn’t deserve what he did. And of course he’s always the victim

Don’t worry about him. Worry about yourself

The sooner you end all contact with him—including text and online—the healthier you will be.

All contact.

Not worried about him, I just don’t like how he makes me look like I’m the crazy one

Your right..all contact must come to an end.

No one can make you feel anything. It’s not like he shows up to your house and harasses you. You keep going to his, then you are upset he treats you bad. He knows it goes unpunished because no matter how badly he treats you, you come to his house. More you keep pursuing him, more crazy you’ll feel. Plus it’s not safe. Drunken host and drunk friends, arguments, kicking you out, I’d feel unsafe. Things can go really bad.

Block him please. Block his phone and Facebook and email

I am going to block him now. The way he seems is he will punish me and then know I will just forgive him so contact me when he feels like it. I can’t handle it so I need to make sure he has no way of reaching me

Good idea. Block him ASAP

I'm so sorry you're hurting so much, Gymgirl71! I completely agree with what all the other great, wise, wonderful posters have already wisely said better than I ever could! You've been given lots of great, wise, wonderful advice on this thread! I'd suggest to follow it as much as you can if you want to! This was definitely the last straw! He doesn't deserve you, or anyone else for that matter, in his own life since he treated you so horribly! Please don't be so hard on yourself and remember that it's NOT your fault and that HE has problems he needs to work on, NOT YOU! It's not up TO YOU to change him! Only he can change himself! Definitely block him as soon as you can! He doesn't deserve to hear from you or from anyone else! He definitely seems like a dangerous person to be around! I'd say you've DEFINITELY dodged a bullet by getting away from him! Things may have even escalated or got worse! I'm glad you're trying to get away from him and seeing him for who he truly is: a bad person who doesn't deserve you and doesn't deserve to be respected unless he starts to learn how to respect other people first! Please try to focus on yourself right now and don't pay attentiont to him or to what he does EVER AGAIN! You deserve to be treated with respect and you deserve to find someone who will truly love and truly respect you for you for who you truly are! YOU DESERVE IT! You're a STRONG, WONDERFUL PERSON! PLEASE REMEMBER THAT! I'm SO HAPPY that you're finally starting to get away from him! Trust me when I say that that's the right thing to do and the LEAST he deserves! I PROMISE YOU THAT! Remember that what he does or says does NOT matter anymore! He's out of your life for good now! PLEASE REMEMBER THAT! I'm so sorry you have to deal with all of this, Gymgirl71!

Please set boundaries and maintain them. I think you should leave him. My ex is toxic too. I'm so glad I left him and I didn't look back.

I wish you healing and peace.

He’s blocked

It’s over...I tried so more times with him but he’s too messed up. Blames all his exes when really he is the problem.

Excellent

I know my gut was right all along about him, but I tend to blame myself too much and think it’s all my fault instead of seeing it for what it really is. As a result, I don’t really get the respect I deserve ever.