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#62
Well, we work on ourselves our entire lives. You are not alone with this challenge either.
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before others will respect us. __________________ Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this. Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018 |
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#64
He isn’t the kind of man to give you respect. You don’t go to bakery to buy veggies right? And you don’t get mad at Baker for not selling veggies right? Because you know they are not selling them.
But you repeatedly go to a drunk and abusive man’s house, who isn’t interested in actually properly dating you, and you are expecting to be treated with love and respect and him to have a nice relationship with you. If you want to be treated with respect, you go for a respectful man. The issue isn’t that this man wasn’t giving you respect, the issue is that these men aren’t the type to give anyone any kind of respect. You have to go for higher quality men if you want nicer treatment. You can’t control how these men treat you but you can control who you date. I still feel that you aren’t understanding true issue yet so hopefully therapist cd. help you |
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It's a relapse. It happens. The important thing is that you realized your mistake and are going to try to quit him again. Maybe it takes a few tries, but you can do it!
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#66
Yes...well he’s abusive so he will never respect anyone..I was enabling that behavior by staying..I should have ended things long ago when I saw the first red flag
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#67
You are right....abusive people will never respect anyone.....but having our OWN self-respect will keep us away from those kinds of abusive people so we don't have the need or desire to get respect from people like that in the first place. It is a learning process with each experience we go through. That is how we personally grow
__________________ Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this. Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018 |
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