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Old 04-20-2019, 07:24 PM #61
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I learned when I kept getting into unhealthy relationships that I wasnít healthy myself at different stages of life. My advice is to get healthy and strong on your own first and through therapy before you consider dating again.
Itís going to be a while trust me
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Well, we work on ourselves our entire lives. You are not alone with this challenge either.
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I know my gut was right all along about him, but I tend to blame myself too much and think itís all my fault instead of seeing it for what it really is. As a result, I donít really get the respect I deserve ever.
When we don't respect ourselves enough to stay out of bad situations no one else will respect us either. Self respect has to come
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He isnít the kind of man to give you respect. You donít go to bakery to buy veggies right? And you donít get mad at Baker for not selling veggies right? Because you know they are not selling them.

But you repeatedly go to a drunk and abusive manís house, who isnít interested in actually properly dating you, and you are expecting to be treated with love and respect and him to have a nice relationship with you. If you want to be treated with respect, you go for a respectful man.

The issue isnít that this man wasnít giving you respect, the issue is that these men arenít the type to give anyone any kind of respect. You have to go for higher quality men if you want nicer treatment. You canít control how these men treat you but you can control who you date.

I still feel that you arenít understanding true issue yet so hopefully therapist cd. help you
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It's a relapse. It happens. The important thing is that you realized your mistake and are going to try to quit him again. Maybe it takes a few tries, but you can do it!
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When we don't respect ourselves enough to stay out of bad situations no one else will respect us either. Self respect has to come
before others will respect us.
Yes...well heís abusive so he will never respect anyone..I was enabling that behavior by staying..I should have ended things long ago when I saw the first red flag
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Yes...well heís abusive so he will never respect anyone..I was enabling that behavior by staying..I should have ended things long ago when I saw the first red flag
You are right....abusive people will never respect anyone.....but having our OWN self-respect will keep us away from those kinds of abusive people so we don't have the need or desire to get respect from people like that in the first place. It is a learning process with each experience we go through. That is how we personally grow
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