[LadyShadow]

The above is my Engagement Ring that my fiancé gave me 20 years ago. I kept it all this time even though I have gone through multiple life changes and moved countless times. He found me on Facebook recently, and shared with me a very powerful emotional event for him - seeing me leave my job with my new boyfriend, all smiles and so happy years ago - while he stood there holding flowers to surprise me that one Valentine's Day. At that time he had just got out of prison wanting to start over and connect with me again, but I had moved on and wanted nothing to do with him - he thought surprising me would change my mind - ultimately it was his greatest heartbreak and I was completely unaware that had even happened up until a few nights ago.

I teared up as we were texting and told him a truth about that guy he saw me with. The guy was my ultimate demise. The one that sent me down the path of hospitals, pills, and a life long sentence of bipolar disorder. Because of him I lost absolutely everything I have ever built, and most of all my sanity. What I realized was I paid dearly for my ex-fiancé's heartbreak and that karma is actually a real thing. I always knew I broke his heart because I had turned him away once and went on to ignore his phone calls, but I never knew the extent of it.

Fast forward to today, my life has come full circle and me and my ex-fiancé are now great friends. We exchanged numbers and we talk all the time. We are both in relationships and there is no romance there, but it feels good to have both our hearts mended after such times.

It just so happens I was expecting to hear back from a job that I desperately wanted, and even as I was suffering from severe anxiety waiting to hear back from them, that conversation with my ex-fiancé put things into perspective. We cannot change what we have done but we CAN change what we are going to do from here on out. That job ultimately moved on to another candidate, but instead of falling to pieces over it, I applied to some more jobs today and am fully enrolled to get the degree I've always wanted for my dream job from an online school.

So, I am on my way, and I guess the message I am bringing is this: Don't squander your time waiting for what if's or blaming yourself for the past - It is much more than letting go, its about loving yourself enough to be the very best you can be by doing things that only bring joy and prosperity to your life.

God Bless, thanks for reading.

[divine1966]

Your post brought tears to my eyes. What a wonderful loving message. I am glad to hear that you two are friends and are on good terms. Life is beautiful. Good luck with your job search and many hugs to you

[Nammu]

Beautiful!

[LadyShadow]

Originally Posted by divine1966

Your post brought tears to my eyes. What a wonderful loving message. I am glad to hear that you two are friends and are on good terms. Life is beautiful. Good luck with your job search and many hugs to you

Aww divine thank you! I have done A LOT of crying the past few days for sure, but I know it wasn't all for nothing. Life is INDEED beautiful!! Thank you for the well wishes, I am positive that it will turn out great. I am on my way to so many new possibilities and I am so happy to have come this far.

This is a beautiful story LadyShadow. How empowering that must be for you. Thank you for the inspiration. I honestly needed to hear your advice today. Happy to have come across your post.

Originally Posted by LadyShadow

What I realized was I paid dearly for my ex-fiancé's heartbreak and that karma is actually a real thing. I always knew I broke his heart because I had turned him away once and went on to ignore his phone calls, but I never knew the extent of it.

Fast forward to today, my life has come full circle and me and my ex-fiancé are now great friends. We exchanged numbers and we talk all the time. We are both in relationships and there is no romance there, but it feels good to have both our hearts mended after such times.

So, I am on my way, and I guess the message I am bringing is this: Don't squander your time waiting for what if's or blaming yourself for the past - It is much more than letting go, its about loving yourself enough to be the very best you can be by doing things that only bring joy and prosperity to your life.

God Bless, thanks for reading.

Sometimes I think Karma can also be about punishing ourselves because we unconsciously know the damage we have done but YES YES we can turn it all around! Aging is not all bad. I am so so glad you and your exfiance have healed from the past! Yes, life is beautiful. God Bless You!

[LadyShadow]

Originally Posted by Ptak

This is a beautiful story LadyShadow. How empowering that must be for you. Thank you for the inspiration. I honestly needed to hear your advice today. Happy to have come across your post.

I am so, so happy I have been able to help lift your spirits Ptak, it always warms my heart to hear that. It was a very empowering moment for me, and it brought me peace. If you ever need advice about anything, just message me.

Originally Posted by Nowinners

Sometimes I think Karma can also be about punishing ourselves because we unconsciously know the damage we have done but YES YES we can turn it all around! Aging is not all bad. I am so so glad you and your exfiance have healed from the past! Yes, life is beautiful. God Bless You!

Thank you so much! This is very kind of you. I know I shouldn't punish myself about what happened but its like I actually felt his pain in that moment he told me, especially with all that happened with that guy he saw me with and how awful things turned out. But it's been really nice to come full circle and heal from that together. You are so sweet, God Bless you too!