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Default May 30, 2019 at 09:26 PM
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I think that sometimes controlling individuals with a superiority complex think they are being respectful when in fact they are not. I’ve had friends talk down to me and I haven’t responded to it in a way that, in hindsight, was ideal. I wish you luck with these friends, it’s not easy to ask someone to be respectful in a way that they don’t find disrespectful (in some situations). I’m here with you working on healthy boundaries myself

I agree that people with very type A personalities tend not to try to change unless they are forced to..... I also agree that with some individuals, if they think they can walk all over someone then they will.

I also think you’re a great person who deserves kind, thoughtful, respectful friends

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I think that sometimes controlling individuals with a superiority complex think they are being respectful when in fact they are not. I’ve had friends talk down to me and I haven’t responded to it in a way that, in hindsight, was ideal. I wish you luck with these friends, it’s not easy to ask someone to be respectful in a way that they don’t find disrespectful (in some situations). I’m here with you working on healthy boundaries myself

I agree that people with very type A personalities tend not to try to change unless they are forced to..... I also agree that with some individuals, if they think they can walk all over someone then they will.

I also think you’re a great person who deserves kind, thoughtful, respectful friends
Thanks, Fuzzy.

I think many ppl believe they can walk all over me because I am so easy going. Little do they know that I am a quiet but fierce mamma bear protecting her own territory. LOL.
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Thanks, Fuzzy.

I think many ppl believe they can walk all over me because I am so easy going. Little do they know that I am a quiet but fierce mamma bear protecting her own territory. LOL.

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I mean, I have a very Type A personality and I constantly try to improve myself and if I hurt a friend I respond with compassion and genuine pain that I have hurt my friend. I don't like this stereotyping of Type A people. Type A doesn't make you an asshole or a narcissist.

I think these two friends are just overbearing. Type A doesn't mean overbearing.

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Thanks, Ennie.

She does have a superiority complex. She's always been like this.
So is she practically perfect and flawless?

One thing I noticed about people who micro-criticize and talk down to others is that they have just as many flaws.

It's a strange thing because you would expect a near-perfect person to criticize you. You would think that she would have more right to do so.

But I've seen it in my own circle too. It's not the relative who has a perfect family that criticizes another relative's dysfunctional family. It's always the ones with dysfunctional family that constantly criticize someone else's spouse, children, parenting skills, and home...and give tons of unsolicited advice as if they are the experts.

But I am glad you are setting stronger boundaries, to let your friends know that their behavior is unwelcome. Hopefully, they will become more self-aware and less critical of you over time.
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Well, in my experience it's the unhappiest people that need to somehow feel superior. It's like they're trying to overcompensate for deeply rooted insecurities.
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