Not accepting invitations if forced to be invited

rdgrad15 · Jun 12, 2019 at 07:37 PM

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Originally Posted by SilverTrees

Exactly! We had a thing at work once....our boss was pregnant and a highly sycophantic co-worker wanted us all to buy baby gifts for her for a work-type baby shower. Now, in some situations that might be just fine. But our boss was very disrespectful to all of us....a miserable control-freak. Although I wished her and her baby well, I had no desire to spend some of my hard-earned money buying her a gift. So I respectfully did not participate. I didn't make a show of it and the boss didn't even notice but I received plenty of judgment from a few colleagues. Colleagues who, interestingly, complained about our boss every day at work both during her pregnancy and afterward. So the whole thing was very odd to me. Now, if they wanted to buy her gifts, that is no problem....I respect other people's choices. And I personally did not want to and that was my choice. I don't give gifts to people I do not respect. it's fairly simple. And it annoyed me that I had to deal with such silly "shower" antics in a professional setting as well as in my social life.

Yeah that's really weird. I would not have participated either, especially if the boss isn't that respectful. Sounds like your coworkers are very hypocritical and like to gossip to be honest. And yeah, I would not want to have some event you normally would have with friends and family at work. I like to keep work and social life separate, as I'm sure most people prefer as well.

Freedom51 · Jun 12, 2019 at 07:39 PM

I think you were right to decline. No point hanging around where you are not wanted.

Jun 12, 2019 at 07:54 PM

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Originally Posted by rdgrad15

Yeah that's really weird. I would not have participated either, especially if the boss isn't that respectful. Sounds like your coworkers are very hypocritical and like to gossip to be honest. And yeah, I would not want to have some event you normally would have with friends and family at work. I like to keep work and social life separate, as I'm sure most people prefer as well.

Agreed. Plus I no longer work there.

It was a terribly unhealthy work environment.

rdgrad15 · Jun 12, 2019 at 07:59 PM

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Originally Posted by SilverTrees

Agreed. Plus I no longer work there.

It was a terribly unhealthy work environment.

Oh I'm sure, glad you moved on.

rdgrad15 · Jun 15, 2019 at 03:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Freedom51

I think you were right to decline. No point hanging around where you are not wanted.

Yeah exactly. No way would I want to make someone else feel obligated to have me around when they will secretly be wishing I wasn't there.

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Freedom51 New Member Member Since Jun 2019 Location: Mountain View, CA Posts: 4 4	Jun 12, 2019 at 07:39 PM #22 I think you were right to decline. No point hanging around where you are not wanted.
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