Constantly paranoid that people treat me bad

Jun 23, 2019 at 04:24 PM

Just because your paranoid doesn't mean they aren't out to get you.

But seriously people are seriously mean and horrible lately. I can't interact with almost anyone without coming away feeling worse for having talked to them.

Jun 23, 2019 at 04:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Emily Fox Seaton

Just because your paranoid doesn't mean they aren't out to get you.

But seriously people are seriously mean and horrible lately. I can't interact with almost anyone without coming away feeling worse for having talked to them.

Sorry to hear they're treating you like crap. It really sucks that people can do horrible stuff to you for no reason.

Jun 23, 2019 at 06:16 PM

There are a few people who no longer like me due to my issues. They can just screw it cuz they're fake AF. I can count on one hand the number of people who're like that. Like the one who deleted me on FB after I spent the lunch rush crying and complaining about the GM "yelling." There are a lot more people who'll accept me even at my low point. The vast majority of people have not been through the degree of rejection I've been through at Arby's but they'll still understand bc we all been rejected b4.

I'm also starting to write several times a day a single sentence. "I don't let her past actions towards me affect me now." If I write it enough, I'll internalize it and it'll change how I deal with hell.

Jun 23, 2019 at 07:23 PM

Ruby, you need to get past feeling and thinking that your supervisor at Arby's rejected you. This is erroneous thinking. She did not reject you in the social sense. You behaved in such a way that forced her to take disciplinary action against you. You caused her rejection of you in the professional sense. There was no social rejection because work is a professional environment with professional rules and conduct. It is not a social scene. I think you very much confuse the two majorly.

divine1966 · Jun 23, 2019 at 08:01 PM

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Originally Posted by ruby2011

Yes supported employment might be a good idea. I'll prolly text my job developer to see if that could happen.

Awesome. It could be just temporarily. I can’t believe I called it supervised employment meaning supported. My summer brain went to mush

unaluna · Jun 23, 2019 at 08:02 PM

Golden, you need to check how you post to ruby. You wouldnt like it if someone spoke that way to you, telling someone they are erroneous in their thoughts and feelings.

Jun 24, 2019 at 11:44 AM

at some point ruby you have to own up to your behavior..crying thru shift, acting out etc is just not acceptable. you can't control who comes and shops at your store...if arby's employees crave different fast food and visit mcd's then you have to deal with it. but your behavior has to be professional.

you post all these behaviors you do at the workplace and then say it is everyone else's fault...I doubt that is totally true given what you post. what does the coach say?
don't they offer any kind of help in trying to avoid these behaviors? if I had an employee who cried all thru their shift I would have sent you home. period. no place for that in the workplace..especially a fast food place. it isn't everyone else's or a specific worker's fault. at this point in time I would say the onus is on you to find some way to deal with your actions. what does the therapsit say?

~Christina · Jun 25, 2019 at 04:25 AM

Have you tried DBT Therapy since CBT wasn’t helpful ?

Jun 29, 2019 at 12:10 AM

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Originally Posted by ruby2011

She had me canned in October 2017 but I’m still affected. I even physically lost my voice bc of multiple mental breakdowns. Now I expect everyone to hurt me. At my current job at McDonald’s, I’m paranoid that people are mean to me when they weren’t.

I'm so sorry to hear you are struggling, Ruby.
A traumatic mistreatment can make you lose trust in people. It's natural. I can relate to that.

Is there a case manager or a therapist who can support you through this tough season? You really have a lot on your shoulder to be carrying all the weight on your own.

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Anonymous45521 Guest Posts: n/a	Jun 23, 2019 at 04:24 PM #21 Just because your paranoid doesn't mean they aren't out to get you. But seriously people are seriously mean and horrible lately. I can't interact with almost anyone without coming away feeling worse for having talked to them.
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unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 39,829 (SuperPoster!) 12 66.3k hugs given	Jun 23, 2019 at 08:02 PM #26 Golden, you need to check how you post to ruby. You wouldnt like it if someone spoke that way to you, telling someone they are erroneous in their thoughts and feelings.
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~Christina Legendary Wise Elder Community Liaison Member Since Jul 2011 Location: Tennessee Posts: 22,450 (SuperPoster!) 12 12.7k hugs given	Jun 25, 2019 at 04:25 AM #28 Have you tried DBT Therapy since CBT wasn’t helpful ? __________________ Helping others gets me out of my own head ~
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