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#21
Just because your paranoid doesn't mean they aren't out to get you.
But seriously people are seriously mean and horrible lately. I can't interact with almost anyone without coming away feeling worse for having talked to them. |
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Sorry to hear they're treating you like crap. It really sucks that people can do horrible stuff to you for no reason.
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There are a few people who no longer like me due to my issues. They can just screw it cuz they're fake AF. I can count on one hand the number of people who're like that. Like the one who deleted me on FB after I spent the lunch rush crying and complaining about the GM "yelling." There are a lot more people who'll accept me even at my low point. The vast majority of people have not been through the degree of rejection I've been through at Arby's but they'll still understand bc we all been rejected b4.
I'm also starting to write several times a day a single sentence. "I don't let her past actions towards me affect me now." If I write it enough, I'll internalize it and it'll change how I deal with hell. |
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Ruby, you need to get past feeling and thinking that your supervisor at Arby's rejected you. This is erroneous thinking. She did not reject you in the social sense. You behaved in such a way that forced her to take disciplinary action against you. You caused her rejection of you in the professional sense. There was no social rejection because work is a professional environment with professional rules and conduct. It is not a social scene. I think you very much confuse the two majorly.
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Golden, you need to check how you post to ruby. You wouldnt like it if someone spoke that way to you, telling someone they are erroneous in their thoughts and feelings.
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at some point ruby you have to own up to your behavior..crying thru shift, acting out etc is just not acceptable. you can't control who comes and shops at your store...if arby's employees crave different fast food and visit mcd's then you have to deal with it. but your behavior has to be professional.
you post all these behaviors you do at the workplace and then say it is everyone else's fault...I doubt that is totally true given what you post. what does the coach say? don't they offer any kind of help in trying to avoid these behaviors? if I had an employee who cried all thru their shift I would have sent you home. period. no place for that in the workplace..especially a fast food place. it isn't everyone else's or a specific worker's fault. at this point in time I would say the onus is on you to find some way to deal with your actions. what does the therapsit say? |
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Have you tried DBT Therapy since CBT wasn’t helpful ?
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A traumatic mistreatment can make you lose trust in people. It's natural. I can relate to that. Is there a case manager or a therapist who can support you through this tough season? You really have a lot on your shoulder to be carrying all the weight on your own. |
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