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Yeah I hear you!!! For me, this was one of the worst relationships of my life. That and another abuser from whom I literally had to flee for my safety.
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And therein lies the golden question! I would love to hear him tell me he was lying when he said he loved his other ex more. But I know I will never get that from him.
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It also means I got engaged to someone who didn’t truly love me? It makes the engagement a joke.. a joke on me. It makes me look like the total fool. I already am but that’s far worse.
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Whether or not he truly loved you wouldn't have any bearing at all on who you are. You helped him and cared for him because you're a good person. He couldn't see that, and he lost his chance with you. That's all on him. |
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For me, it is just how my brain works. I have never had an issue with regret, and grudges. Eventually my disappointment or anger wears off. However, I have never met someone that did something truly atrocious.
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You can refer to your own thread, “Value and Self-worth Do Not Depend on How Others Treat You, Especially Abusers”. . You are going around in circles on this.
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I really don’t know what forgiveness is. For me it’s just a gradual letting go of the anger over time. That’s the best I’ve been able to do.
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@TishaBuv, sorry, i wasn’t yelling at you .. I realize how that sounded.. just emphasizing that I’ve been a mess over it. Yes perhaps going in circles.
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I don’t know how to fix myself. I don’t know how to not tie my feelings of self worth to someone I loved who tried to squash it.
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Maybe there is no fixing me. Maybe I’m just broken after that relationship.
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It's OK not to know. To be hurt is to be human, you don't always have to be above it and a lot of times you can't. This is where you really have to be gentle with, and patient with yourself. Hang in there... |
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But yeah, he still was able to break a part of me pretty good. It's been very hard to fully recover from.... I have healed quite a bit, but I am not fully there. And thank you. |
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