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Default Jul 15, 2019 at 06:05 PM
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So...

My fiance is probably too close to his mother. When I met him in 2018, she was still doing his laundry and cooking his meals. I thought it was odd, he was 28 at the time but I only went as far as making jokes. Now we are engaged and living together. His mother HATES me. She spends most of her time with him trying to convince him to leave me. The more time my fiance and I spent together, the more I am convinced this is an unhealthy co-dependent relationship. His mother was still on his bank account, still had his car in her name, often calls and request that he do things for her, without consideration for plans we may have, or the fact that we live 35 minutes away. When we decided to move in together, his mother cleaned out his $70,000 savings account and refuses to return it until he leaves me. She has also refused to come to our wedding and told him "this is the biggest mistake of your life."

I am a college-educated woman, with a good job and no children. I come from a respectable family and have never even been pulled over for a speeding ticket. I am also African American and he is caucasian.

His mother has done this to her older son as well. Same financial situation and same controlling behavior.

Please ask any questions for clarification. I want to know if this is something I should try and fix with my future husband or should I let him go? Is there even a problem here? Please Help!
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Default Jul 16, 2019 at 12:47 AM
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How does he feel with letting her control his money , car? ??

If he doesn’t see anything wrong with her doing these things ....then my advice is end the relationship and move on.

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Default Jul 16, 2019 at 02:46 AM
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How does he feel about her taking his money?

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Default Jul 16, 2019 at 07:03 AM
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Wow! Honestly having joined bank account with mama is bad enough. Was he planning on keeping her on accounts when married?

Did she tell you and him why she hates you? And how did it end with older son? Did he end end leaving a woman because of mommy?
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