Got a promotion but now am doubting myself

Icedgem · Jul 30, 2019 at 05:28 PM

My manager is taking sabbatical leave so I've been promoted to his position until he returns in a year.

I've been working really hard in my job and senior management know I want to progress within the company so this is a great opportunity for me.

I told my mum and the first thing she said was I'm guessing they didn't have anyone else then.

Now I'm thinking is this true? Was I just the pick of a bad bunch it would it be too costly to recruit and train someone new?

I started on a high and now I feel awful about myself as i now start to think they didn't have anyone else

Stuck1nhead · Jul 30, 2019 at 05:37 PM

Your mom really shoved her foot in her mouth. I wouldn’t pay too much attention to the opinion of one person.

You say you’ve been working hard and they know that you want to advance. Well then I would go with that thought.

Bill3 · Jul 30, 2019 at 05:56 PM

Congratulations!! 😀

I think your promotion shows well-deserved confidence in you!

~Christina · Jul 30, 2019 at 11:05 PM

Congratulations !

You told them you want to advance so they made the right choice.

Ahh years ago with my mom, she said some really stupid shyt about my career choices and yes it strung and yes sometimes I doubted myself. But every single time it was steps forward for me job wise.

I’d say try to be a duck and let it roll off. Enjoy your new position.

MickeyCheeky · Jul 31, 2019 at 04:12 AM

You've been working hard so enjoy the position and ignore what your Mother is saying, @Icedgem!

Congratulations and keep rocking! I'm sure you'll do a WONDERFUL job! This is a great opportunity for you! Sending many safe, warm hugs to you, Icedgem!

Jul 31, 2019 at 10:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Icedgem

I told my mum and the first thing she said was I'm guessing they didn't have anyone else then.

NEVER share good news with parents. They will ALWAYS criticize you for it. Like, when I got an accident settlement from being hit by a truck, my mom's response to the large amount was, "You should have asked for more."

Do not align your boss' choice of promoting you to your mother's awful, critical comment which was...really nasty. What is wrong with her to say such a thing? Do not connect those two things together. Your mother is just a mean person for saying that to you. Jesus.

unaluna · Jul 31, 2019 at 12:07 PM

Yeah what blanche said. Sheesh!

Congratulations! Your job is lucky to have you.

Crazy Hitch · Aug 02, 2019 at 06:14 PM

Wow! Congrats on your promotion

They would never have promoted you unless you ARE a good fit. Of course you are!

Blah blah your mother's comments ... put them in one ear and out the other.

crisscross712 · Sep 15, 2019 at 11:12 AM

Congrats! As someone who has a wonderful mother who can often say the wrong thing, do your best to not let it affect you. You sound like a hardworking driven person so sounds like they just picked the right person for the job. Her mom isn't with you at work so she has no real way to know how well you are doing so it doesnt really matter what she thinks about it

LilyMop · Sep 21, 2019 at 10:13 PM

Congratulations! I’m sure you worked hard for this position and I’m sure you were chosen based on your skills and qualifications. It sounds like a wonderful opportunity to start moving up like you want so take it and don’t worry about what anybody says.

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Stuck1nhead Member Member Since Aug 2016 Location: Virginia Posts: 363 7	Jul 30, 2019 at 05:37 PM #2 Your mom really shoved her foot in her mouth. I wouldn’t pay too much attention to the opinion of one person. You say you’ve been working hard and they know that you want to advance. Well then I would go with that thought.
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Bill3 Legendary Member Since Mar 2009 Location: USA Posts: 10,924 15 24.1k hugs given	Jul 30, 2019 at 05:56 PM #3 Congratulations!! 😀 I think your promotion shows well-deserved confidence in you!
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MickeyCheeky Legendary Member Since Jun 2016 Location: Italy Posts: 11,817 (SuperPoster!) 7 38.4k hugs given	Jul 31, 2019 at 04:12 AM #5 You've been working hard so enjoy the position and ignore what your Mother is saying, @Icedgem! Congratulations and keep rocking! I'm sure you'll do a WONDERFUL job! This is a great opportunity for you! Sending many safe, warm hugs to you, Icedgem!
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unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 39,841 (SuperPoster!) 12 66.3k hugs given	Jul 31, 2019 at 12:07 PM #7 Yeah what blanche said. Sheesh! Congratulations! Your job is lucky to have you.
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Crazy Hitch ɘvlovƎ Member Since Nov 2013 Location: Australia Posts: 18,560 (SuperPoster!) 10 12.6k hugs given	Aug 02, 2019 at 06:14 PM #8 Wow! Congrats on your promotion They would never have promoted you unless you ARE a good fit. Of course you are! Blah blah your mother's comments ... put them in one ear and out the other.
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crisscross712 Member Member Since Sep 2017 Location: New England, USA Posts: 44 6	Sep 15, 2019 at 11:12 AM #9 Congrats! As someone who has a wonderful mother who can often say the wrong thing, do your best to not let it affect you. You sound like a hardworking driven person so sounds like they just picked the right person for the job. Her mom isn't with you at work so she has no real way to know how well you are doing so it doesnt really matter what she thinks about it
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LilyMop Veteran Member Member Since Sep 2019 Location: U.S. Posts: 709 4 81 hugs given	Sep 21, 2019 at 10:13 PM #10 Congratulations! I’m sure you worked hard for this position and I’m sure you were chosen based on your skills and qualifications. It sounds like a wonderful opportunity to start moving up like you want so take it and don’t worry about what anybody says.
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