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Default Aug 23, 2019 at 09:11 AM
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just be real. chances are most people aren't interested in your psychiatric diagnosis...be you without the drama. laugh, relax, etc. when people ask me how I am I don't delve deep I to my cptsd diagnosis or physical ailments because it doesn't define me and I doubt most people really want to know.

use a little humor, it's good for the soul. open up, relax the boundaries some. be more then your diagnosis...life is too short to worry about explaining it in every conversation and situation. when they ask "how are you?" say..hungry, tired, fine, looking ahead to the weekend, what ever.

you say you don't feel emotions but clearly this has you worried..about presenting yourself...wouldn't that in itself be an emotion? maybe not a huge wide grin or deep abysmal sadness....but I would classify concern as being emotional.
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Default Aug 23, 2019 at 11:18 AM
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I don’t think it’s necessary to tell them your diagnosis. That’s your personal business. I would only tell someone if I wanted to and in most cases I personally wouldn’t want to.

I think they’re making comments and asking questions because if they are anxious about something they can’t wrap their minds around someone not being anxious. I think it’s just curiosity and if you don’t want to make anything out of it, then just don’t. I tend to just tell people “I’m just weird” when I don’t want to elaborate on something I do that’s different from them because in many cases I really don’t care to talk about things with people.
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Default Aug 23, 2019 at 12:47 PM
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Asking people why they are anxious will not produce any logical answer because they probably can’t explain, they are likely are just afraid of heights or open space or deep water or dark whatever other things some people might be afraid of. There is usually no explanation (sometimes there might be)
Shame. It is very interesting, and I wonder what compels people to react the way they do.

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If you weren't intentionally trying to be honest, how would you have handled the conversation?
It isn't about the conversation so much, but the presentation. I would've giggled, joked, fidgeted, and otherwise acted giddy and anxious like everyone else was.

A question though, what do people feel when they're like this? Can they stop behaving this way?

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when people ask me how I am I don't delve deep I to my cptsd diagnosis or physical ailments because it doesn't define me and I doubt most people really want to know.

you say you don't feel emotions but clearly this has you worried..about presenting yourself...wouldn't that in itself be an emotion? maybe not a huge wide grin or deep abysmal sadness....but I would classify concern as being emotional.
Of course I'm not going to tell people I'm a psychopath, not even if they flat-out asked me. That would be silly. By "deeper level," I mean the more serious scenarios which lead people to feeling anxious or afraid. Sure, they'll joke about my lack of reaction to whimsical adrenaline junkie games, but they might not find the humor if we come upon a fatal car accident and I still fail to react.

What do you feel when you're worried? I'm just trying something new and looking for advice.

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I think it’s just curiosity.
And admittedly, I am a little amused by people's curiosity.
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Shame. It is very interesting, and I wonder what compels people to react the way they do.


It isn't about the conversation so much, but the presentation. I would've giggled, joked, fidgeted, and otherwise acted giddy and anxious like everyone else was.

A question though, what do people feel when they're like this? Can they stop behaving this way?


Of course I'm not going to tell people I'm a psychopath, not even if they flat-out asked me. That would be silly. By "deeper level," I mean the more serious scenarios which lead people to feeling anxious or afraid. Sure, they'll joke about my lack of reaction to whimsical adrenaline junkie games, but they might not find the humor if we come upon a fatal car accident and I still fail to react.

What do you feel when you're worried? I'm just trying something new and looking for advice.


And admittedly, I am a little amused by people's curiosity.
I don’t think something “compels” people to feel. It’s just a natural response. Its usually subconscious. I don’t know why I am afraid of heights, perhaps I think I might fall down, no clue. It’s just “is”. Yes it’s interesting.

Some fears are due to actual OCDs so it’s just how people are wired. And some are there without abnormality. It just is.

Imho most things people feel and react to aren’t on a very conscious level. That’s why when asked why people compel to feel and react certain way, you likely will not get an answer because there is no answer. Of course there are exceptions. Sometimes we can explain why we feel certain things

Most behaviors and reactions could be controlled (unless the person has a particular disorder). Most people control behaviors and reactions in public because of various reasons. But we can’t really control feelings and emotions, just a response to them
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I don’t think something “compels” people to feel. It’s just a natural response. Its usually subconscious. I don’t know why I am afraid of heights, perhaps I think I might fall down, no clue. It’s just “is”. Yes it’s interesting.

Most behaviors and reactions could be controlled (unless the person has a particular disorder). Most people control behaviors and reactions in public because of various reasons. But we canÂ’t really control feelings and emotions, just a response to them
I meant what compels people to react a certain way, not what compels people to have the feeling. I'm assuming it's the feeling which influences how someone reacts, though they can control it to some extent. When I react, it's more like I'm just reading lines. If no one was around that I needed to act for, then I wouldn't react at all.
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I meant what compels people to react a certain way, not what compels people to have the feeling. I'm assuming it's the feeling which influences how someone reacts, though they can control it to some extent. When I react, it's more like I'm just reading lines. If no one was around that I needed to act for, then I wouldn't react at all.
I don’t think anything particular compels people to react either. They feel something, they react. If situation is calling for controlling one’s behavior (like can’t act certain way in certain circumstances) people could control some of their reaction to an extend. Although there've been many times when something was so funny to me I couldn’t stop laughing and had to step out to avoid getting in trouble. Reaction was just spontaneous.

If you don’t feel anything then I don’t see a need to act like you do. You can express some understanding to people without feeling it per se. Like if someone’s relative dies, I might feel nothing because I didn’t even know them but logically I know people must be hurting, so I’d tell them I am sorry or what not. I’d not visibly react though because I don’t feel it and not about to start acting.

Even those of us who do feel emotions don’t feel it 24/7 and to the highest degree at all times. Yes some people are very emotional, but not all. Plenty of times I feel nothing. Sometimes I feel something. Sometimes I feel a lot. I suspect most people are this way. So I don’t think you need to always react when people are around. It could be ok not to.

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So I donÂ’t think you need to always react when people are around. It could be ok not to.
Sure. And I didn't react all that much, as that felt most natural to me. I was just curious about the comments made about it.
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