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Went down to the cafeteria to get food and turned around cause I saw her across the way and it instantly brought back all the anger, guilt and humiliation I felt towards myself when it first happened.
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I would ask T if there were any coping skills you can use to feel better about yourself and How can you work on making people feel better around you?
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Too paranoid ? Obviously she felt unsafe, she went to HR, he was talked to. This is a pretty common situation for an HR dept to handle.
The OP has taken this and used it as a learning experience. Some Women can easily become uncomfortable around Men especially in a parking garage setting. The end result was she did what she needed to do. Not every woman is confident enough to tell someone to leave them alone or back off etc. that doesn’t mean she’s weak or paranoid. __________________ Helping others gets me out of my own head ~ |
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I may have posted about one who complained me because i wouldnot talk to her... |
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And I’m sure that HR told HER to avoid being around him also. Unfortunately if they work in the same place instances are going to come up. As long as they both just steer clear as much as possible there isn’t going to be a problem. Maybe there is no other place for anyone to park but the garage? OP I’m sorry that seeing her brought up all those feels again, but it’s good that you can think back to talking all this out with your T. __________________ Helping others gets me out of my own head ~ |
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We don't know what HR told her. It is a smuch her responsibility to avoid him as his to avoid her as she is the one who does not want to meet. He has to be allowed the canteen and put on his sun glasses. if parking is limitied it is not his fault.
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And honestly, I'm with LonelyMan on this one. OP hadn't done anything, and it isn't the job of men to constantly assuage the fears of women. How would he even be able to? This hyper-sensitivity is breeding resentment, and it's going to give menfolk the impression that us fair and delicate womenfolk simply cannot handle a workplace environment. |
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I don't think that you intentionally made her feel uncomfortable!
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That great advice! I wish that I had thought about that myself!
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