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Grand Magnate
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Lately she will just get bossy and give commands like, "go take a picture of that for me"... and I hate myself for usually doing what she asks. I think next time I'll just calmly say something like "nah, you can do it". I can tell she does this because she is angry about something, but when I bring it up, she refuses to discuss it- but doesn't deny being angry.
She mocks me for being face-blind. She mocks my interest in philosophy. She deliberately slows down a conversation and refuses to answer questions and says something like, "I'm sorry, I have slow processing." Considering all I know about her, this smacks of insincerity and pettiness. She refuses to take me seriously when I tell her how much I detest being around her family - because of the way they treat me. And refuses to help me find a solution. I suggested driving separately, and she made an issue of it, told her family what I was doing, and keeps trying to get me to ride together- even though she told me she did agree that it was a good solution. __________________ My business is to teach my aspirations to conform themselves to fact, not to try and make facts harmonise with my aspirations. T.H. Huxley |
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Grand Poohbah
Member Since May 2019
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There are things my spouse does that upsets me and things I do that upset him. It is not worth it to make an issue out of everything (we have to learn to accept each other) but when something really bothers us--that's when we have to do something about it. We have to ask? Are they treating us badly (sometimes I can read more into a situation than is really going on--everyone has bad days where they get impatient). If they aren't respecting us--we need to find situations where we take a stand. Not everything but if we stand up enough to show that they must respect us--we will feel better about ourselves. |
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Location: Kentucky, USA
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It ended up being EVERYTHING about him. That is why he is NOW my EX -H & I live 2100 miles away. They call it irreconcilable differences.
I could list them all BUT it would end up being a full book, not just a post __________________ Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this. Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018 |
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Grand Magnate
Member Since Jul 2014
Location: US
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Lately we've had encounters that went like this:
Me: I really felt close to you last night when ________________ My Wife: [long silence- changes the subject] I guess eventually I'm going to have to ask her what's going on. For some reason I have a hard time engaging her in the moment. What I should have said is something like - "What's going on with you right now? It appears you didn't have a good a time as I did. Should I be worried?" __________________ My business is to teach my aspirations to conform themselves to fact, not to try and make facts harmonise with my aspirations. T.H. Huxley |
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