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Default Oct 13, 2019 at 03:22 PM
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I'm not saying he's done no wrong, an dim listening to everything you're all saying. I'm just trying to figure out if it's genuinely right to not give him a chance really.
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Default Oct 13, 2019 at 03:29 PM
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Thank you both, Buffy & Bill.
I have already asked him if he was seeing someone before and he said he wasn’t at that time, but I suppose I could bring it up again.
I’ve also tried to explain that I need distance before but he doesn’t seem to want it - he just confuses me because he made out he liked me when I said that but still never acted on it - I just feel like there were a lot of mixed signals in the end. I could just reaffirm that though now that circumstances are probably different with him being involved elsewhere.
I was hoping he’d just stop contacting me eventually, and that may happen yet, so I’ll just have to wait and see. ☺️
That sounds like my ex-boyfriend! I finally had to tell him he could no longer contact me anymore. I had to block his number and e-mail.
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What if you tell him to get in touch with you if and when you and he live in the same city, at which time you can see how things stand in person. Until then, I myself would continue to make communication minimal and keep my distance.
That sounds like a great idea!
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Sometimes a person needs to take action even though others might not want it or like it.
That sounds like a great idea! I wish that I had thought about that myself!
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Default Oct 13, 2019 at 03:32 PM
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I think that a possible dating partner should prove him/herself through consistent interest, kindness, and affection over time.

Judging by what you have said, you haven’t seen that from him so far.

I don’t know whether he is trying to exploit selfish opportunity. I just think that a person (you ) should keep their emotional distance from someone unless and until they demonstrate consistent interest, kindness, and affection over time. Don’t commit to him unless and until he commits to you.
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Default Oct 13, 2019 at 03:36 PM
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Oh no I'm not committing, I think I've learned to keep some distance now until I see otherwise, but if I can keep that emotional distance I just didn't see any harm in replying to his messages and keeping in touch until he's back. Obviously it'll be different in person and we'll have to start again.
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Default Oct 13, 2019 at 03:41 PM
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If he doesnt live up to his words though then he will most definitely be blocked from that point on.
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I think that a possible dating partner should prove him/herself through consistent interest, kindness, and affection over time.

Judging by what you have said, you haven’t seen that from him so far.

I don’t know whether he is trying to exploit selfish opportunity. I just think that a person (you ) should keep their emotional distance from someone unless and until they demonstrate consistent interest, kindness, and affection over time. Don’t commit to him unless and until he commits to you.

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Default Oct 16, 2019 at 01:18 PM
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Hello,


There’s much more to this but it’s difficult to get it all across here, but my main question is why is he still contacting me if he’s seeing someone else now? And how do I best handle it?
It sounds like you're a backup plan. The fact he didn't divulge he was seeing someone else speaks volumes.

If you enjoy his friendship and do not believe you will " catch feels," let him know you value his friendship and that's as far as it goes.
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Default Oct 17, 2019 at 04:27 PM
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he probably was called out by the previous lady and she walked. makes sense, that now that he's blown it with the one he had, he's open to getting into something with you but my previous statement still stands, knowing what you know about this guy and his ways, is the affection and attention really worth it when you know it's likely to be split between you and the next woman of interest he comes across? honestly I think you've already stated what type of man this is and you're playing with fire if you get into something with him.
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