Am I Invisible?

I'm in love with someone who doesn't know I exist. I stare from afar, in my hand broken heart while I pretend...And it's you yes it's true...am I invisible?

I've fallen in love with a classmate I work closely with. We work together and we meet once or twice a week and call/text everyday. He's twenty years my senior, previously divorced, no kids.

We've gotten to the point of hugging when we say goodbye, and I'm sure he knows of my feelings but we've never discussed it. I really don't know how to discuss it, especially if I think that if a romance will happen it will happen so slowly.

I don't know how to move forward with my feelings, but I'm so hopelessly crushing on him. He's not showing any signs that he's interested in me, although in some aspects he does show he cares about me a lot. *sigh* What do I do...?

Knowing him as you do, what do you think his response would be if you just fessed up and told him you liked him like that?

I'm afraid it would put him in an awkward situation if the feelings aren't mutual.

No, you are not invisible. If you’ve been giving off vibes that you are interested, there must be some reason that he is not getting more intimate.

Ask him in a face saving way- keep the drama to a minimum. A no doesn’t mean forever no.

One reason I may think so is it may interfere with our professional relationship or interfere with our job...I am technically his boss though I see him as an equal.

I'm also speculating on the age gap and his issue with the divorce...he may not be interested in seeing anyone at all not just me.

Those are probably the reasons.

I myself would never date my boss no matter how I might feel about her.

Also, a boss is unwise to express interest in someone who works for her/him. You might consider him an equal, but if you “technically” are his boss then you are his boss and if you were to pursue him you would leave yourself open to a sexual harassment claim if he didn’t like his assignments, performance review etc. You could also face criticism from your superiors even if he did not make a claim against you.

Unfortunately you won't know for sure if you don't ask Him, @LiteraryLark! I COMPLETELY AGREE WITH EVERYTHING THAT ALL THE OTHER WISE AND WONDERFUL POSTERS HAVE ALREADY WISELY AND WONDERFULLY SAID BETTER THAN I POSSIBLY EVER COULD IN MY ENTIRE AND WHOLE LIFE! I DO understand your concerns, though. Feel free to speak up to him if you want to. That is YOUR CHOICE of course, so please consider it and see if you can TRULY hang on for much longer keeping those feelings inside you. Perhaps discuss these feelings with a Therapist if you haven't already? I am not sure, just some advice for you! Also look up for some LEGAL advice in case any problems show up with you showing feelings for a co-worker or someone who's in a role BENEATH you as there may be some Power Struggles between you two in that case, even if they're unintended unfortunately! In any case, whatever you decide to do, I hope it will turn out well! Perhaps just talk to him about ALL of this and see how it goes from there, but be aware of the risks you're going to meet in case you decide to go that route! I am not sure how much keeping your feelings bottled up is going to help you... But that's just my opinion, do what pleases you the most! Feel free to PM me ANYTIME as well if you need someone to talk to or vent to or even some advice and support! I am SURE plenty of others will be glad and REALLY, REALLY, REALLY, REALLY, REALLY HAPPY TO HELP YOU OUT AS WELL! Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @LiteraryLark, your Family, your Friends, your Classmate and ALL of your Loved Ones! KEEP FIGHTING AND KEEP ROCKING AS MUCH AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN LIKE YOU'RE ALREADY WISELY AND WONDERFULLY DOING ALL AND ENTIRELY BY YOURSELF AND ALL AND ENTIRELY ON YOUR OWN LIKE YOU ALWAYS DO NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?