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Default Nov 06, 2019 at 02:13 AM
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Please don't tell me he's locked in a tower somewhere and I have to ride on my trusty steed to ask him to let down his hair. Tick tock, tick tock...*sigh*
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Default Nov 06, 2019 at 02:25 AM
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Haha. No, you have to ask him to let down his great big bushy beard these days!! Oh such lovely, well groomed, beards they have now, ha.

As for Prince Charming, well, he's there waiting somewhere, Literary Lark. The U.S is a mighty big country. Many, many men everywhere.
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The big question ,how many frogs have you kissed?
From experience I can tell you a very common "trick" ,get yourself a wedding ring ! Yes it sounds bizzarre, but people always want what they can't have ,a ring symbolizes that ,you will find guys saying things like "I would ask you out but your married" then you tell them your not, go ahead ask ?see what happens ! If you have kissed enough frogs your prince will be right with you.
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The big question ,how many frogs have you kissed?
From experience I can tell you a very common "trick" ,get yourself a wedding ring ! Yes it sounds bizzarre, but people always want what they can't have ,a ring symbolizes that ,you will find guys saying things like "I would ask you out but your married" then you tell them your not, go ahead ask ?see what happens ! If you have kissed enough frogs your prince will be right with you.
Honestly if a guy was wearing wedding ring in order to manipulate women, I’d never go out with him after finding out he is being deceptive. . I don’t recommend using deception when looking for Mr. Right.
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Default Nov 08, 2019 at 11:23 AM
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Seriously, though. There are so many ways. What are your hobbies? Have you looked into any groups or clubs that meet to pursue those hobbies? What about hobbies you have thought about but not yet taken part in? Pets? Breed? There are St. Bernard owners' groups and Corgi groups and Bengal groups... Church or other faith situation? Tons of potential opportunities there. What kind of exercise/workout stuff are you into? Yoga? Pilates? Running? Weights? Spinning? Cycling? Swimming? Hiking? Climbing?

How about the arts? Book club? Writing group for fiction, poetry, or nonfiction? Painting, sculpting, blowing glass, wood carving? Car or motorcycle junkie? Into antiques? Garden club? Volunteering opportunities? Museum? Conservation groups such as Sierra Club or Audobon Society?

I am not trying to be ridiculous, I just don't know you. I list all the above because, depending on where you are located, any or all of these could represent solid opportunities to meet quality guys. Having a shared interest in Vizslas or astronomy might sound silly, but it could offer a chance to meet someone you have something in common with. And that is all it takes. Both my long-term partnerships (one 17 years, one 10) grew out of brief, one-time meetings. But I liked them and so I pursued my interest. It worked both times.

There are some good dating websites. I know, I know. But really, there are some decent ones. They are not all hookup sites, though there are a lot of those. Have you tried to find one that feels like it might have reputable men on it?

All you need is the chance to meet some quality guys. It only takes one.

That is all I got for now. I wish you luck. I believe that action is the solution to your issue. Sitting back and waiting is not. It's almost 2020. Go for it.

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I thought prince charming was supposed to find us, not the other way around? --Just kidding.

In this day and age, we all need to be proactive in finding a mate. I choose to be asexual, but for those who are not, there are many opportunities to find potential mates. I'm 45 y/o, so there was this notion of "playing the field" (not being a player, but not having all your eggs in one basket either; you date, see whom you like, and then pick one to take the relationship to the next level - that is, if the potential mate feels the same way).

You can start out by simply looking for friendships (not even dating yet), and keeping potentials in the "friend zone" until you find one who might be a good match. Men can do this, too.

I like the suggestions that the others have made as well. Because I'm asexual, I don't have much to offer other than what I've overheard from people.

I do like a good fairytale though.

If you wind up having a fairytale wedding, please let us know! That would be so cool to hear!
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Default Nov 08, 2019 at 02:25 PM
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Honestly if a guy was wearing wedding ring in order to manipulate women, I’d never go out with him after finding out he is being deceptive. . I don’t recommend using deception when looking for Mr. Right.
haha right. deception is always a great way to strike up a new relationship with someone >.>
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Default Nov 08, 2019 at 02:29 PM
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naw if he's locked in a tower somewhere, it brings to question things related to the dysfunction of the family that locked him up there and all the related baggage he's carrying because of his confinement.

But there's a match for pretty much everyone somewhere, but the fact is that not everyone finds them quickly or "when they want to". just be patient and be discerning about who you choose to connect with and/or date... I don't think finding the right mate is easy for any of us but difficult in varying degrees.

Hang in there. in the meantime find reasons and ways to enjoy your singlehood. there are benefits and good things about it too... and being happily independent is more often a very attractive attribute to others looking for a mate.
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Default Nov 08, 2019 at 03:09 PM
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What have you tried to do while looking for a mate so far? PLEASE NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER GIVE UP HOPE NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS! I COMPLETELY agree with EVERYTHING that ALL the other WISE AND WONDERFUL POSTERS have already WISELY AND WONDERFULLY SAID better than I possibly ever could in my whole and entire Life! There are plenty of fish in the sea. Just keep looking for other Men based on your own Interests and Hobbies as well. I feel like that's key. I don't really have any Interests or Hobbies and that's what leaves me out of ANY social activity. If, however, you are lucky and you DO have those things, definitely start from there! I am sure you'll find someone sooner or later! You are smart and kind a I'm sure you're REALLY beautiful as well, however it's important to be active when looking for a relationship! Dating sites may help, but please do be careful. Keep trying and keep looking! Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @LiteraryLark, your Family, your Friends, your future Boyfriend, your Relatives, your Parents, your Pdocs, your Doctors, your Therapists, your Nurses, your Social Workers and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking no matter what happens, ok?
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I list all the above because, depending on where you are located, any or all of these could represent solid opportunities to meet quality guys. Having a shared interest in Vizslas or astronomy might sound silly, but it could offer a chance to meet someone you have something in common with. And that is all it takes. Both my long-term partnerships (one 17 years, one 10) grew out of brief, one-time meetings. But I liked them and so I pursued my interest. It worked both times.

There are some good dating websites. I know, I know. But really, there are some decent ones. They are not all hookup sites, though there are a lot of those. Have you tried to find one that feels like it might have reputable men on it?

All you need is the chance to meet some quality guys. It only takes one.

That is all I got for now. I wish you luck. I believe that action is the solution to your issue. Sitting back and waiting is not. It's almost 2020. Go for it.
I live in a sleepy coastal town...very few choices on dating apps based on where I live, and even though I go to college, one, there's limited choices as the college has a low student body, and two, I have no interest in guys my own age. I'm much more into older men. Right now, I'm interested in a classmate who is 20 years older that I mentioned in another thread. But he just isn't biting and its heartbreaking. So there's just not many options for me right now.
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