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I like what you shared here! There's a lot of truth in that! But then again, there are submissives and dominators, and some can desire the role of both in different contexts. The give-and-take in a relationship benefits the wants of both parties, not just one. |
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Here's something I do all the time that most people might consider manipulative. In any given social interaction, about 95% of what I do or say is designed to elicit a response from someone else or simply to observe someone's reaction. Probably even more than that, if I'm being honest. And it's always deceptive, even when it's true. I thought this was normal and that everyone interacted in this fashion, but apparently what I do is more similar to what fake-psychics do when they read people - cold reading, hot reading, using Barnum statements, misdirecting. Anything that'll help me fish for information. Quote:
Have you ever been to a large group function where everyone else is really getting into something, and you're just not into it? Like a concert, a poetry reading, or a church sermon or something. You look around at everyone next to you, and you can see from the expression on their faces that they're experiencing something, and that everyone there is connected by this shared feeling. Except for you. You're just standing around, probably bored, wondering why everyone has this stupid look on their face. Quote:
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Secondly, I've been keeping things casual for the past few years, and I've enjoyed it for the most part. But every now and then, I'll get an activity partner or **** buddy who wants more out of the relationship, and they pester me about it incessantly. And they always do it with this expectation that I'll eventually "open up" to them about my feelings, but it never happens. So I've deftly avoided any deep connections up until this point because I know where it leads. But I've been wondering why it's necessary for me to do this. To spare someone else's feelings? It's their choice to get close to me, after all. I'm not their handler, and I'm not responsible for their feelings. Quote:
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