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We've been together for a decade.
Early on, suspected something was wrong. Incidents over time finally got an explanation. She sees, hears, feels, smells things I don't. Says shes done so all her life. Refuses to talk to anyone. I've read life long schizophrenia is rare. But I know whatever It is, she's had it for aong time. It controls everything. How she thinks about herself and everyone else is altered, usually negatively. I need to know how to find out what we're up against. She not going to go to a Dr. She doesn't want to take medication and finances are wrecked. She doesn't want to lose who she is. I don't either. The "all over the place" mode she gets in to has been fun. How do I get through to her. Keep all that makes her spectacular but do something about seeing and hearing things. All this time and we still haven't come up with acceptable way to reference it, whatever it is. Thank you. |
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Well...I'm not a mental health professional. So I can't respond to this in any authoritative sense. But my personal non-professional perspective would be that the only person who can help your girlfriend is your girlfriend. If she won't do what she needs to do in order to figure out what's going on, & what she can do about it, there's nothing you can do to change that. And as far as keeping "all that makes her spectacular", while doing something about your gf seeing & hearing things, I suspect anyone who can figure that one out is destined to become a very wealthy person. Every one of us who struggles with mental health issues would love to be able to go in & "surgically" change just those parts of ourselves that are troublesome while keeping all of whatever good qualities we have. Unfortunately, at least at this point in time in the history of mental health services, that rarely happens.
Here are links to 2 articles, from Psych Central's archives, that discuss how to convince a loved one to seek professional care & how to help a loved one who is in denial: How to Persuade Your Loved One to Seek Professional Help 11 Ways to Help a Loved One in Denial My best wishes to you both... __________________ "I may be older but I am not wise / I'm still a child's grown-up disguise / and I never can tell you what you want to know / You will find out as you go." (from: "A Nightengale's Lullaby" - Julie Last) |
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Here's a link to a possible resource that may be of interest to you:
Hearing Voices Network: Free Downloads (including coping strategies) __________________ "I may be older but I am not wise / I'm still a child's grown-up disguise / and I never can tell you what you want to know / You will find out as you go." (from: "A Nightengale's Lullaby" - Julie Last) |
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Thanks for commenting and links.
I've cross posted and double posted here. I posted similar in schizophrenia forum. I don't believe that is concider good etiquette. Thank you helping. |
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Very hard to help someone who vehemently does not want help.
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you have been with her a decade....have these issues been going on for a decade?
if so, then the odds are it would take something huge to bring change,..if for that entire time she has had the same issues you described and you lived with them, and won't seek treatment, I guess it boils down to can you continue with the relationship as it is or not? if she won't seek help, the only way I know of to force help is to call the police if she is a danger to herself or others. that would get her I nto the medical system for at least a short time, and on some meds. but that is a drastic step...maybe even a relationship changer... perhaps you can seek help with therapy just to help keep yourself on track. best I can offer up |
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