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Legendary
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For me this is a theme because I have always been emotionally neglected and invalidated in my family. It’s this issue that caused the rift and why we imploded. I was finally out to get some validation, but instead got told to my face I literally mean nothing. I’m trying to move forward and be happy in new ways... forget the idea of the family idealization. __________________ "And don't say it hasn't been a little slice of heaven, 'cause it hasn't!" . About Me--T |
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I’m doing very well with close friends who are nice people. I’ve had close friends who turned out to be very toxic people, and I’ve gotten them out of my life. Maybe the dynamic of that they are friends and not the most intimate level of close is working for me because they are meeting my expectations as far as friends go. But the most intimate behavior you’d expect from family has been my issue. I agree, times are quite uncivil. Facts can be twisted and debated in every direction, distorted to be used for whichever side. Speech is powerful and injustice is upsetting! Having NO expectations isn’t the best thing for anyone either, IMHO. Don’t give up. Find a balance, find better friends. Stay out of political conversations, lol. __________________ "And don't say it hasn't been a little slice of heaven, 'cause it hasn't!" . About Me--T |
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Tisha,even if I lolled it really hurts.I do not like to reach out for help.I would rather cry in my dark room when feeling helpless.The sarcasm of my cousin for the little favour I asked for was too much.But it gave me a good glimpse of the selfishness of the so called family.I innocently thought they could give a little because they took much more from me.Hmmm well.Guess not.But in the end I learned a valuable lesson.
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