advertisement
Reply
Thread Tools Display Modes
Nocalove
Member
 
Nocalove's Avatar
Nocalove has no updates.
 
Member Since: May 2017
Location: MidWest
Posts: 74
5 yr Member
Exclamation Dec 06, 2019 at 07:56 AM
  #1
The last time I posted on this forum, I did not get even one reply. So, here goes another attempt.

I was driving a 2007 Chevy HHR. I have poor credit and it was financed. I was making $350 monthly payments and it would not be paid off until 2021. Well, I was having some issues with it. I took it in to where I got it, and they determined it needed a new engine and other work. I inquired about trading it in, but they said no. So, I agreed to put $500 down on the engine, and pay $75 extra monthly for the service fees. That would have made my car payment $425.

Well, my roommate ( aka romantic partner ) is trying to trade his car in. He has a 2012 Chevy Cruz, and it is having problems. The body is all banged up and the oil is going back into the transmission. So, we go to where he got the car from. He applies for credit and on a whim, I decided to apply. Well, he got denied and I got approved. I rolled off the lot in a 2019 Chevy Cruz.

My life has been hell ever since. He is very angry that I got a car and he didn't. This is a toxic relationship anyways, and with his anger, it just makes it worse. It blew up yesterday while we were at the store. He got out the car screaming and yelling and throwing things. I can't handle this much longer.

I am still in shock they approved me. I didn't want or need a brand new car. I just wanted to get a newer car and got out of the horrible financial mess I was in.

Not sure if this will get any replies, but it feels better to get it out.

Thanks for reading.

__________________
Your light has the ability to light others
Ignite the world
Nocalove is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
Bill3, bpcyclist, hvert, MickeyCheeky, Open Eyes, unaluna
 
Thanks for this!
Bill3, bpcyclist, MickeyCheeky, ~Christina

advertisement
Anonymous48672
Guest
Anonymous48672 has no updates. Edit
 
Posts: n/a
Default Dec 06, 2019 at 09:04 AM
  #2
Quote:
Well, my roommate ( aka romantic partner ) is trying to trade his car in. He has a 2012 Chevy Cruz, and it is having problems. The body is all banged up and the oil is going back into the transmission. So, we go to where he got the car from. He applies for credit and on a whim, I decided to apply. Well, he got denied and I got approved. I rolled off the lot in a 2019 Chevy Cruz.

My life has been hell ever since. He is very angry that I got a car and he didn't. This is a toxic relationship anyways, and with his anger, it just makes it worse. It blew up yesterday while we were at the store. He got out the car screaming and yelling and throwing things. I can't handle this much longer.

I am still in shock they approved me. I didn't want or need a brand new car. I just wanted to get a newer car and got out of the horrible financial mess I was in.
It sounds like your boyfriend is trying to blame YOU for his poor credit problems. You didn't deny his credit application, so he is entirely wrong to take his anger out on you. He's projecting all of his disappointment, anger, and frustration with being denied a car loan, on to you, because you are the closest target.

Have you ever addressed his anger problems with him before? Is he willing to work on his poor communication skills with you in an effort to be a better boyfriend and save the relationship? If he isn't willing to address his own issues, then he isn't someone you should continue to waste your time with, and you need to find a way to get away from him despite the two of you living together.

Congrats on the 2019 Chevy Cruz!! Sounds like your previous car was a real lemon --- not unlike your boyfriend now is....

You were able to fix your own financial mess because you took the steps to do it, I imagine, by making those car payments on time. That is why you improved your credit and was approved for that car loan. Your boyfriend is extremely selfish to take his anger at himself, out on you. You had nothing to do with his poor credit situation. He created it all by himself. He's 100% wrong to blame you and throw a tantrum the way he did while you were at the store. What an immature jack ***.
  Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
bpcyclist, MickeyCheeky
 
Thanks for this!
MickeyCheeky, Open Eyes
Imokay2
Member
Imokay2 has no updates.
 
Member Since: May 2015
Location: California
Posts: 89
8 yr Member
23 hugs
given
Default Dec 06, 2019 at 02:59 PM
  #3
He sounds like a big baby
Imokay2 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
bpcyclist, MickeyCheeky
 
Thanks for this!
MickeyCheeky
~Christina
Legendary Wise Elder
Community Liaison
 
~Christina's Avatar
~Christina has no updates.
 
Member Since: Jul 2011
Location: Tennessee
Posts: 22,450 (SuperPoster!)
10 yr Member
12.7k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Dec 07, 2019 at 12:10 AM
  #4
Well I probably would have said “ calm down and get in the car and go home or whatever ... if he continued to be a idiot I would have left him there.

It’s not your fault he has poor credit. He needs to grow up and fix the mess he caused

__________________
Helping others gets me out of my own head ~
~Christina is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
bpcyclist, MickeyCheeky
 
Thanks for this!
MickeyCheeky
divine1966
Legendary Wise Elder
 
divine1966's Avatar
divine1966 Tired!!!
 
Member Since: Dec 2014
Location: US
Posts: 22,302 (SuperPoster!)
8 yr Member
1,274 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Dec 07, 2019 at 05:21 AM
  #5
Your boyfriend sounds awful. I’d ditch him and get an actual roommate if you need one. He yelled and screamed at the store? I’d drive away. He is a grown man and can find way home.

By the way I checked and all your threads have responses. Not sure which thread you mean
divine1966 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
bpcyclist, MickeyCheeky
 
Thanks for this!
MickeyCheeky
bpcyclist
Legendary
 
bpcyclist's Avatar
bpcyclist has no updates.
 
Member Since: Sep 2019
Location: Portland
Posts: 12,681 (SuperPoster!)
3 yr Member
40.2k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Dec 07, 2019 at 01:46 PM
  #6
Your BF needs to go to Target and buy a mirror and look at it. A lot.

__________________
When I was a kid, my parents moved a lot, but I always found them--Rodney Dangerfield
bpcyclist is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
 
Hugs from:
Anonymous48672
 
Thanks for this!
Bill3
Bill3
Legendary
Bill3 has no updates.
 
Member Since: Mar 2009
Location: USA
Posts: 10,923
15 yr Member
24.1k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Dec 07, 2019 at 04:09 PM
  #7
Quote:
This is a toxic relationship anyways
Why are you still with him?

What will it take for you to leave/kick him out?
Bill3 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Open Eyes
Legendary Wise Elder
 
Open Eyes's Avatar
Open Eyes Not a Unicorn, just another horse
 
Member Since: Mar 2011
Location: Northeast USA
Posts: 23,093 (SuperPoster!)
10 yr Member
21.3k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Dec 07, 2019 at 05:00 PM
  #8
What happened to that car you wanted to trade in and put that $500 down on fixing the engine? You were making payments on that vehicle, so how did you get rid of that mess?
Open Eyes is online now   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
All times are GMT -5. The time now is 06:40 AM.
Powered by vBulletin® — Copyright © 2000 - 2024, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.



 

My Support Forums

My Support Forums is the online community that was originally begun as the Psych Central Forums in 2001. It now runs as an independent self-help support group community for mental health, personality, and psychological issues and is overseen by a group of dedicated, caring volunteers from around the world.

 

Helplines and Lifelines

The material on this site is for informational purposes only, and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment provided by a qualified health care provider.

Always consult your doctor or mental health professional before trying anything you read here.