Husband pressuring me to dress more sexy and “accidentally” expose myself to othermen

I don't see how a lot of this thread is supportive toward the OP anymore. And she hasn't come back. I get that some ppl are upset, triggered, and concerned about the OP. Me too. But she may be scared off now. I do see judgmental tones and conversation, despite what ppl are saying "no we aren't we're just concerned." But there's a way to talk to people. And you don't get to tell people how to feel.

I was worried the OP got scared off too.

Its kinda graphic - shouldnt it be under sexual issues? I have that forum blocked from my list!

Her husband is pressuring her to expose herself. It was not something she came up with and by sharing this challenge she has gotten a variety of responses from individuals of different ages and responses from both women and men as well.

I think one has to take into consideration a lot of the cultural messages of their generation, they are both young yet, and just 32. Things have been pretty graffic in their generation. For example, one movie I talked about "Basic Instinct" came out in 92. That was made over 17 years ago. He was very young when that movie came out. Their generation was exposed to a lot more sexually graffic movies than my generation. It's very possible this contributed to his evolving into having this fetish he has that he had not had before in their relationship.

Yes, it's possible the OP has been taken back by the comments. However, she is also getting feedback that can help her consider some things she has not considered before, and also validate some of her concerns as well. I think the feedback she has gotten in her thread is expressing concern for her and cautions. This is a relationship obstacle, I am sure the OP wants feedback that can provide her with information so she can handle this obstacle in a way that hopefully provides her a way to maintain her marriage but also engage in discussions with her husband to avoid both of them facing consequences they would rather not experience.

Also, when it comes to your children, the environment you create for them? You don't get a redo. Their children do need their parents to behave in ways that help the children feel safe and confident. So her and her husband's behaviors "matter".

OP if your still reading this I hope your doing okay and sorting out your feelings. Feel free to PM if you want, I’m a great listener

no film gives the right to involve innocent unknowing people in their games. And if the op was taken aback what answer did she expect? That it us ok to use others who do not know you are teasing them for your husbands sick kicks. If he wants his kicks arrange them with people he knows and take responsibility for his fetish

Well, actually LonelyMan, that particular movie I pointed out is not only sexually graffic, but the woman in this movie does play around with people's minds. However, that movie is rated and warns it has sexual content etc.

What the OP's husband chose to do however, is he assumes other males are like him when that is simply not the case, never just assume anything about other people. Also, what her husband wanted her to do is "use" this guy without his conscent. So this friend was put in a position where he was part of her husband's game not even knowing it was a game. The OP did not just agree to expose herself that nite, but to also expose herself to a guy that had no idea he was being "played" or actually "used" for her husband's thrill.

I appreciate your input, and do hope the OP appreciates it as well. You are proof that this isn't something YOU as a man would care to be involved in. Yes, her husband needs to take responsiblity for his fetish which he did not choose to do. And even when he asks her to expose herself more when they go out, he is still not considering how there are other people that may find that uncomfortable.

That being said, today a lot of people do put themselves out there in all kinds of ways. The OP's generation tends to be encouraged to be very forward and out there. It's wise of the OP to stop and say, "hey wait a minute, it this ok?". Well, just because someone wants you to do something doesn't mean you should, and it's always wise to sit and really consider the consequences.

If you two were being supportive you would be talking and debating with Noname....not with each other.

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