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My boyfriend tells me all the time bad things. Calls me names and insults me. Every couple of months, I find out he has at least tried to get with another woman. It's hurtful. When we go to part ways, if he actually leaves, he always comes back. A few months ago he quit having sex with me. Any suggestions on what to do?
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I am so sorry you are having such a hard time, Lamujerdefranky! I wish I had wisdom so I could offer you some good advice, but sadly I lack such wisdom.
Have you considering consulting a psychotherapist? Sometimes when I am in a situation I cannot sort out, it helps me to talk to a professional who can see things from the outside and has some wisdom regarding relationships. What do you think? You are a good person with so many qualities that can be appreciated and treasured so please do not be too hard on yourself for having relationship troubles. I have had those too and I think many people struggle with these kinds of problems. Are you safe? Sometimes name calling and things like that can turn violent and your safety is the most important thing. Please contact a woman's crisis center if things are not safe for you. I do want to welcome you to PsychCentral. I hope this site can be a place where you can feel at home to express whatever is going on in your life, your mind and heart. Although I am just a new member here, I have already found this site to be helpful to me. Wishing you only the best! -- Yaowen |
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It sounds like you have very little if any self esteem. It's so important to learn why and work on developing healthier self esteem. |
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sounds like a guy who wants to be alone. give it to him.
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Welcome to Psych Central, Lamujerdefranky. One additional forum, here on PC, that may be of interest to you would be the Survivors of Abuse forum. Here's a link:
https://psychcentralforums.com/survivors-of-abuse/ And then here are links to 6 articles, from Psych Central's archives, that discuss emotional as well as verbal abuse, how to know if you're being abused, & steps to take if you are: 21 Warning Signs of an Emotionally Abusive Relationship 8 Warning Signs for Silent Domestic Abuse Victims 11 Warning Signs of Emotional Abuse in Relationships Signs You Are Verbally Abused: Part I https://psychcentral.com/lib/signs-y...dium=popular17 https://psychcentral.com/blog/in-an-...dium=popular17 I hope you find PC to be of benefit. __________________ "I may be older but I am not wise / I'm still a child's grown-up disguise / and I never can tell you what you want to know / You will find out as you go." (from: "A Nightengale's Lullaby" - Julie Last) |
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I think you have been emotionally and mentally abused if you have to question getting him back ?? Back to what ? Calling you horrible things? To cheat on you again? No ! You deserve better, maybe you don’t realize it right now... but you do.
Find a Therapist to help you process all this abuse and sort out your life so you can make positive changes. You deserve someone a hell of a lot better than this lousy excuse of a human being like him. __________________ Helping others gets me out of my own head ~ |
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This guy is a jerk and you deserve so much better! Don’t allow him back next time although that’s easier said than done. Think of your strategies beforehand.
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