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Jan 24, 2020 at 04:07 AM
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What do you do when you have a simple request that people keep ignoring? I don't like to be interrupted at home in my room, yet it happens about once every day or every few days. It's happening less, but it still hasn't stopped.
I have resorted to yelling, asking people if they are stupid, throwing things, self harm, breaking things. My next step I guess is just to ignore people when they interrupt and pretend they aren't there. Ultimately I think they don't respect my wishes, or me, so their behaviour persists. In my fantasies
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Jan 24, 2020 at 07:40 AM
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Is it that people forget?
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Jan 24, 2020 at 08:57 AM
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Jan 24, 2020 at 09:49 AM
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I had a meltdown about it yesterday and drove out of the house, and had some thoughts about self harm. I'm probably mentally unwell.
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Jan 24, 2020 at 05:24 PM
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Did you ever put a sign on your door saying "do not disturb"?
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Jan 25, 2020 at 05:18 PM
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I hope things are better today. I don't have an answer to this either and also don't understand why it happens. As frustrating as it is to be interrupted when you've specifically asked not to be, when you have the door closed, it seems like it is just part of living with other people. At least that's what I am settling on. For me, being interrupted sometimes when I don't want to be is better than living without my husband.
I wonder if everyone has a different idea of how long people mean when they say they don't want to be interrupted? For me, I don't want to be interrupted until I emerge, but it seems like other people think it's fair game after an hour or two because that's what they would mean. |
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Jan 26, 2020 at 07:56 AM
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You are only being interrupted once a day or every few days and they bothers you to the point of throwing things, yelling at people, and calling them names? Fantasizing about shooting them? Seems like a bit of an overreaction and is rather disturbing. Are you in the care of a psychiatrist or therapist? I hope you will consider seeking help for you anger issues.
Put a sign on your door for the particular times you definitely do not want to be disturbed, but the reality is, you live with other people. You will be asked questions, asked to do things, etc. |
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Jan 28, 2020 at 02:44 PM
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I too am a bit concerned at your extreme reaction and the fantasizing about something even more violent. I wonder if you've ever questioned your relative level of reaction to these things tht don't seem to be out of the ordinary, abuse or any kind of thing to take offense at. |
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Jan 29, 2020 at 01:18 AM
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Yes I question my reactions, they seem extreme. Nevertheless I feel it's a simple request. I don't knock on other people's doors.
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Jan 31, 2020 at 02:08 PM
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A door is meant to be knocked on.
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